Have you ever been ghosted?
Being ghosted is not a new phenomenon, but its prevalence in media these days has been rapidly growing. Perhaps it’s because victims of ghosting situations have found new platforms for them to be able to express their frustrations as a result of being ghosted. In any case, whatever the reason for its rise in popularity, it is never an easy thing to have to go through. It can be very hard for even the most optimistic people to find the good parts of being victimized by ghosting. For the people who are victims of ghosting, they can often find it difficult to ever trust other people ever again. Ghosting can often taint a person’s views on love and romance forever. It also has the power to destroy a person’s sense of self-esteem and confidence.
For those who don’t know, being Ghosted means that you were left hanging in a relationship without any explanation or prior notice. It means that a person who once meant so much to you just suddenly chose to disappear like a ghost would. It can be painful having to bear that kind of emotional trauma. The weight of uncertainty can do so much damage to person’s mind. It can trigger so much stress and anxiety. But it’s very important that if you ever become a victim of ghosting, you can’t allow the experience to break you. You can’t let yourself become crippled and paralyzed into being nothing. You can’t allow yourself to self-destruct just because someone chose to be insensitive enough to desert you without explanation.
The road to recovery is going to be tough, but you can’t let it intimidate you. And by all means, always try your best to maintain your dignity and your pride in these situations. Here are 9 things that you should always avoid doing after being ghosted by someone.
1. Don’t text that person.
You tried texting that person when they suddenly ghosted you. You never got a reply. They never responded to your text. They wanted to erase themselves completely from your grid. Don’t give them the satisfaction that you’re still chasing after them. Accept that you’ve been ghosted and just learn to move on.
2. Don’t call that person.
Same reasons as the previous item, but more importantly, they don’t deserve to hear your voice. You might think you would be able to pressure them into picking up, but they’re just not worth the effort anymore at this point.
3. Don’t broadcast your sadness on your social media profiles.
The world shouldn’t have to know about your grief and your sadness. You can confide in your closest friends but you shouldn’t be letting everyone on your social network know about your unfortunate situation. It will only make you look petty and desperate.
4. Don’t let yourself cry in public.
Crying in public is essentially the same as broadcasting your sadness on your social media feeds. While it’s okay to cry, you should do it on your own time in private or in the presence of only your most trusted friends and family. You don’t have to let the entire crowded caf see you bear with your emotional trauma.
5. Don’t let the anger get to you.
You are going to be angry. You are going to hate that you have been placed in such an embarrassing and compromising position. But hey, it happens. It’s just unfortunate that it happened to you. So what you need to do is to find an outlet for all of your anger and your frustrations. Channel all of that negative energy into something productive.
6. Don’t take them back if they make a sudden reappearance in your life.
On the off chance that they decide to walk back into your life, just ignore them. Don’t give them any sort of satisfaction. Don’t be kind to them. Be cold. Don’t welcome them back into your life not because you’re still harboring anger but because you have to make them realize that what they did was wrong; and that there are repercussions to their actions.
7. Don’t let it consume you and just learn to move on.
The worst possible thing that you could do in this situation is to do nothing. You can’t let your circumstances cripple you into becoming nothing. You have to move on with your life and you have to be able to build on yourself despite the fact that you’ve just been ghosted by someone.
8. Don’t let this situation deprive you of happiness.
Happiness. That’s the ultimate goal in anyone’s life. If you let this situation deprive you of happiness, then you have already lost. Choose to be a winner. Choose to always pursue happiness in spite of the hardships that may come your way. Always choose to be happy even when others aren’t kind to you.
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