8 Things You Should Avoid Doing During First Dates With Men
Strictly avoid these things!
Ah, the first date. The gateway to either a life of eternal bliss with the one you’re destined to be with forever or the start of a dark journey to heartache and disappointment. There is so much that is just riding on one night; a few hours with just one other person. It’s perfectly acceptable for two people in a first date to be feeling all sorts of things: nervous, anxious, excited, scared, and awkward. It’s a pressure-packed situation and there’s just no getting around the fact that a lot of people crumble under the pressure. If you want to improve your chances of actually landing the guy that you want to be with, then you’re just going to have to play it cool the best way that you can. You can’t let your nerves get the best of you.
You don’t want to risk leaving a bad impression on the guy who could be the potential father of your future children. The one thing you should remember is to always be yourself. You shouldn’t force yourself to act like someone you’re not comfortable with being. Men will be able to see right through you if you start acting all weird. They will see the discomfort right on your face. You shouldn’t have to change who you are just to get a guy to like you. While there is no surefire formula for ensuring the success of a relationship, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t just care at all.
You should still make an effort to improve your chances at actually landing the guy of your dreams. And it all starts with having a great first date experience with him. As mentioned earlier, you only have one shot at a first impression and you always want it to be a good one. Don’t make the mistake of making him feel uncomfortable by committing any of these common first date sins. Here are a few things that you need to avoid when you’re out on a first date with a guy:
1. You are fashionably late to the date.
Being fashionably late just isn’t so fashionable these days anymore. You have to understand that we now live in a very fast-paced world where everyone’s time is precious. If you show up late to your first date, then you are essentially already telling him that his time isn’t important to you and that you’re willing to waste it.
2. You text or browse your phone in the middle of dinner with him.
All of your attention should be devoted to the moment that you’re in with the man that you’re on an actual date with. You shouldn’t be browsing your Instagram feeds or replying to a private message when you’re on a date with a guy. It will make him feel awkward and insulted at the fact that you’re more interested in the words on your phone screen than you are in him.
3. You limit the points of conversation to things that concern your life.
Mix your conversations up. Yes, it’s good to talk about yourself so that you give him a good idea of what your personality and your life is like. But it’s not good to just keep the conversation hovering around your own life. You shouldn’t be so self-obsessed and conceited. You must also express an interest in his life. You must also be willing to find out more about him as well. Being a good listener is also an important aspect of being a skilled communicator.
4. You talk about your ex.
Just avoid all talks of exes on the first date. There will be a proper time for that to be discussed in relationships, but it should never be done on the first date.
5. You act cold and you play hard-to-get.
What’s the point in agreeing to go out with him if you’re just going to keep playing hard to get? You’re already out on a date with him. You’ve already let him know that you’re interested in getting to know him. You shouldn’t be acting cold and difficult to be with. It’s just going to turn him off to the prospect of asking you out for a second date.
6. You wear too much makeup.
You’re going on a first date; you’re not starring on the opening night of a show on Broadway. There’s no need to overdo it with the makeup. In fact, the more natural you make your makeup look will make him a lot more comfortable. It will make him feel at ease knowing that you aren’t trying too hard to conceal your face from him.
7. You wear overly suggestive clothing.
While men do like it when women are forward about their intentions, you still have to be able to maintain some sense of class and grace. You definitely shouldn’t be showing up to first dates dressed in practically nothing. Leave some things to the imagination.
8. You don’t offer to split the check.
It’s the 21st century. You should offer the split the check nowadays. You shouldn’t automatically expect a man to always pay for dinner. That kind of presumptive behavior will turn a lot of men off.
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