Getting your heart broken is no simple thing. It’s a deeply heavy emotional ordeal that has the potential to scar a person for life. As much as possible, you would never want to put yourself in a position for someone to break your heart, but sometimes, it’s inevitable when it comes to love. And that’s just something we all must learn to accept. In order to let love into our lives, we always have to learn to open our hearts, but that can sometimes mean opening ourselves up to pain, betrayal, disappointment, and heart ache as well. So love is always going to be a risk. You are essentially going to have to risk yourself whenever you want to fall in love.
But there are ways for you to minimize that risk of getting your heart broken. There are some things that you can do to protect yourself better from the perils of heartbreak. And just trust us when we say that heartbreak is a perilous ordeal. You don’t have to withdraw yourself from the love pool completely just to protect yourself. You merely have to be smart about it and make sure that you are doing everything that you can to keep yourself safe and secure. Here are a few tips that you could follow to protect yourself from potential heartbreak.
1. Don’t entertain guys who have a reputation for fooling around.
If they have a bed rep, then you probably shouldn’t get with them. As tempting as it may be to try to get with the bad boy so you can be the one who changes him, that’s rarely ever going to be the case. You have to stay guarded by always choosing the guys who have proven themselves to actually be great in relationships. If you keep going after the ones with a bad rep, you might end up just being another statistic.
2. Take your time with getting closer to another person.
In a relationship, you’re eventually going to have to go all-in if you want things to last. But that doesn’t mean that you have to go all-in before the flop. You always have to wait until the time is right. Cast small bets for now and try to feel the cards that are being dealt you. Very slowly allow yourself to get attached to another person and don’t rush into anything you’re not comfortable with.
3. Screen your potential mate for any issues that they might have.
As early as possible, try to screen your mate for any issues that they might be having that won’t just work for you. For instance maybe, you just can’t date a person with a child right now. Or perhaps you may be dating a person who is deeply attached to his job and won’t end up having time for you. Getting to know these issues early on will save you lots of heartache in the future.
4. Make sure that you remember what you learn from previous failed relationships.
Those who don’t learn from the mistakes of the past are doomed to repeat it. So if you want to make sure that you don’t end up getting heartbroken in the future, you have to be able to look at all your previous heartbreaks and learn anything that you can from them.
5. Try to see if you’re the problem in relationships.
Remember that in a relationship, it always takes two to tango. And you have to consider the possibility that you are the cause for your own heartbreak a lot of the time. Try to see what role you have played in all of your previous relationships and assess how your actions could have contributed to your heartbreaking experiences.
6. Distance yourself from dramatic people and dramatic situations.
Dramatic people and dramatic situations only bring unnecessary and unwanted drama into your life. So if you’re done with all of that drama, do yourself a favor and stay away from dramatic people who are always looking to just stir things up. Drama should only be reserved for television, movies, and books. You don’t want any of that in your life.
7. Focus on the things that you can control in the relationship.
There are going to be plenty of things in a relationship that you might not be able to control, but that doesn’t mean you don’t have any control in the situation. The more hands-on you are with how the relationship flows, the better in control you will be of the situation you are in. don’t take a passive approach to relationships so you don’t end up blindsided.
8. Cut your losses as soon as you realize that things aren’t going to work out.
When things start looking shady in the early parts of the relationship, then just end it. You don’t want to drag it out and become attached to something that’s eventually going to fail. Cut your losses early and just move on to something with better prospects.
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