The beauty and burden with relationships is that there are always feelings that are involved. And when a person’s feelings get involved, things could potentially end up beautiful or messy – and it all depends on the situation. When you fall in love with someone, you do so at your own pace. You might take a fast route or you might want to take it slow and gradual. Either way, you’re doing so at a pace that you want to.
And once you’ve completed that process, the real work comes into play. Then you have to start to sustain that love, and this means that you’re going to have to start to be okay with being uncomfortable. However, whenever a relationship starts to cause you more discomfort than actual pleasure, then that’s when you know that things aren’t working out and you need to walk away. However, some of us are just far too stubborn to listen to the signs.
We are always taught that we need to work hard for the things that we want most in life. And that is sound advice. It applies to practically every aspect of life – even relationships. Love was never designed to be easy. And if we want to keep that love in our lives, we need to work hard to keep it there. If we take love for granted, then there is no doubt that it will find a way to leave us feeling empty and broken.
But we also have to understand that even though we try our absolute hardest at something, things still don’t always work out. And that’s what a lot of couples have difficulty grasping about their relationship. They think that just because they’re working hard for their love, they deserve a happy ending. But it doesn’t always turn out like that.
Once you realize that your relationship doesn’t have a future, you’re going to have to cut yourself from it. It’s for your own good. You can’t go on trying to beat a dead horse. If you know what’s good for you, you have to end your relationship and move on to better things. But sometimes, the key lies in trying to figure out if you’re actually still in a relationship that is worth fighting for.
And if a lot of the things listed here apply to your relationship, then chances are that it would be better for you to just walk away.
1. You don’t feel like they want you to be a part of their lives.
They don’t really integrate you into their lives. They keep you at a distance at all times. And that’s just never going to work in the long haul. You need to be sharing each other’s worlds with one another if you want things to last.
2. Your friends keep telling you that you need to move on.
While you can’t live your life purely based on what your friends tell you, you also need to take their advice into consideration. Maybe they see some things that you are blinding yourself to.
3. You don’t feel like you can be your best self whenever you’re around them.
They always make you feel like they’re holding you back. You never really maximize your full potential primarily because you are in a relationship with them.
4. You are the only one who is putting in the work in the relationship.
It really takes the maximum effort of two people in order for a relationship to work. If only one person is trying hard to make things work, then it’s just never going to work out at all. The emotional weight of a relationship is too much for one person to bear.
5. You don’t get the feeling that they’re willing to commit to you.
You always need to have a certain level of commitment in a relationship if you want it to work. You can’t possibly make the relationship last if the both of you are just going to keep on goofing around; you both need to commit to taking it seriously.
6. You don’t see eye to eye on fundamental aspects of life.
You don’t have to agree on absolutely everything – but there are just some aspects of life that you both need to be on the same page on. If you are unable to reconcile fundamental ideas about love, family, morality, and other important things, you’re incompatible.
7. You get the sense that they’re using you for something.
You never want to be in a relationship with someone for any reason other than to be loved. If you’re just being used, then that’s a parasitic relationship that you just really need to be able to cut yourself loose from.
8. You never seem to find consistency with one another.
There is always something that is holding you back. There is always something that disrupts the rhythm. There is always a major hurdle that knocks the both of you off your feet. If that’s the case, it’s the universe’s way of telling you that you’re just not meant to be with one another.