Are you falling out of love?
Love is vulnerable. That’s just a plain fact of life. It’s complicated and confusing but you already knew that going into things. You were already warned of the hazards of love but nothing could have prepared you for what you’re going through now. When you first fell in love with your partner, everything was going so well. It was all so easy, natural, and effortless. It was a smooth ride down into the rivers of affection and intimacy. But now, the fresh waters have been replaced by mud and you don’t know how to get yourself out of this mess.
You can feel your feelings and emotions waning day by day. You don’t know what to do with yourself. You don’t know if you should be feeling guilty or relieved. You don’t know if you should be trying harder or if you should just be letting go. It’s all very confusing to you and you are a little disoriented.
The fact of the matter is that some people really do just fall out of love and we just have to learn to accept it. You are falling out of love with your partner and you both have a choice to make. It’s either you try to make things work and you risk sticking things out in a doomed relationships; or you just choose to give up on everything you’ve built together and move on to new things entirely.
It’s never an easy decision to make but it’s definitely a necessary one. And remember that this is never a decision that you should be making when you’re still unsure about your emotions. You must gain a good understanding of what you’re feeling in order for you to figure out how to move forward. If you’re still unsure about the state of your emotions, then here’s a nice little article for you. Here are a few ways that you are indeed falling out of love with your partner.
1. You think you are falling for another person.
One of the most blatant indications that you are falling out of love with your partner is when you start falling for another person. The space in your heart that used to be filled by your partner is now being slowly occupied by another.
2. You no longer pay attention to the little things.
Attention to detail was always an important aspect of your loving relationship. You would never fail to notice the most specific things about your partner in the past. But nowadays, you’re not even putting in the effort anymore. You don’t pay attention. You don’t really care.
3. You stop planning for the future.
When you’re in a real loving relationship with a person you absolutely adore, then everything you envision about your future completely revolves around that person. Now, however, you are merely content with taking things day by day. The prospect of a future with your partner no longer excites you in the way that it once did.
4. You see talking to your partner as some sort of burden.
Communication used to be so fun and easy. You used to always LOVE talking to your partner. You would always treat whatever discussions you had together as a gift. But it’s a different story these days. Talking to your partner seems like a chore that you just need to get over with. It doesn’t feel organic or natural anymore. You always have to force yourself to participate in these conversations.
5. You aren’t passionate with each other anymore.
Passion is always palpable. You can always see it on a person’s face. You can always feel it tingling beneath your skin. That’s why you’re also fully aware whenever it’s no longer there. Your heart no longer skips a beat when you think about your partner. You don’t get butterflies in your stomach anymore. Your partner might as well be just another person.
6. You keep having the same fights over and over again.
When arguments are continually rehashed in a relationship, then you can bet that there’s something wrong. It means that there is a compatibility issue there and neither of you are willing to make compromises for one another. People who genuinely love another would always make an effort to find a middle ground between them.
7. You don’t make time to hang out with one another anymore.
Time is precious. It’s the most valuable thing anyone could ever give another person in this world. If you catch yourself not wanting to give your partner any more of your time, then that should give you a good idea about the state of your feelings.
8. You don’t have an active sex life.
Sex used to be such a huge aspect of your relationship. You were always so physically attracted to your partner and the thought of sex would always blow your brains out. But nowadays, the passion and the attraction is just gone. Even sex has lost its luster and it’s because you are losing your interest.
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