Getting into a relationship can be a tricky business. There are so many variables to go into play like time, emotions, and goals. So many things have to be able to coincide in order for a relationship to work. Relationships have the power to be incredibly polarizing instruments of life.
They can either be insanely good for people, or disgustingly bad for people. If you ever find yourself in a relationship, make sure you never fall under the category of the latter. You don’t want to be in a relationship that turns you into a lost and horrible person with no drive or direction in life. You always want to be with someone who pushes you and motivates you to become the best possible version of yourself. Be wary of the signs and stay away from toxic relationships. They can break people.
Here are 9 bad signs that you’ve let yourself go in your relationship.
1. You’re no longer goal-oriented or passion-driven.
You’ve let go of all your personal dreams and passions because all your energy is devoted to making your relationship work. You’ll do whatever it takes to make your partner happy and so you start compromising a little too much. You completely forget the promises you made to yourself even before you got into the relationship and you start letting go of the person that you used to be.
You’re uncertain of the parts of the future where you once were so sure of. You no longer know what you want out of life and are no longer sure about what you can offer.
2. You’re just floating along with the current of life.
Since you’ve let go of all your plans and dreams, you really have no clear direction with where you want to go in life. Your relationship has become your entire life and so everything is dependent on how things go between the two of you on a day-to-day basis. You take each day as it comes and you no longer think of things in the long-term because the nuances of your relationship are a little too overwhelming for you to stretch out in broad time domains. – Continue reading on the next page
3. You no longer fight for what you want or what you believe in.
You’ve let go of your personal desires and wants because you don’t know yourself anymore. The relationship has completely consumed you and things have started to lose their appeal. Food doesn’t taste as good as it used to, and so you really couldn’t care less about where you’re having dinner with your partner that night. You exclude yourself from the decision-making process because you don’t really want that pressure placed on you.
4. You hate surprises and you have the urge to be in constant control.
You feel like you really can’t control the ins and outs of your relationship and so you feel like you have to compensate by controlling everything outside of it. You don’t want people to surprise you with their mediocrity or disappointments. You always want things to pan out the way that you want them to because you fear that you won’t be able to adapt to change or unexpected circumstances.
5. You’ve grown to be fearful and dependent.
You don’t know who you are outside of your relationship anymore. You’re dependent on the thought of having a relationship that you can fall back on because you think you would crumble without it. You’re afraid of being confronted by the real world because you’re not sure that you’re strong enough to face it alone.
6. You disregard your own needs for the sake of your partner’s.
You’ve lost all ounces of self-disrespect for the sake of your partner’s own personal satisfactions. You disregard your own personal needs because you think that your relationship should always come before yourself. You don’t think it’s important to take care of yourself anymore because you’re essentially nothing without your relationship anyway.В – Continue reading on the next page
7. You feel like you’ve let yourself down by settling.
You’re caught in a perpetual state of disappointment with yourself because this was never the life you imagined for yourself. You always thought that you wouldn’t let any relationship consume you, but here you are, selling out for your relationship. You’ve compromised so much that you’re not even sure of anything that you stand for anymore.
8. You rarely feel happiness or joy.
You once thought that all joy and happiness depended on having a successful and stable relationship. You now find yourself questioning that idea because happiness and joy seem like such rarities these days. You rarely ever find yourself with a genuine smile plastered on your face and you always feel like you’re bearing the weight of sadness and disappointment on your shoulders.
9. You search for thrills to fill the void but add no actual substance in your life.
The relationship that you’re emotionally killing yourself for is disappointing you. You thought it would complete you but it’s just leaving more and more voids that have to be filled. You chase after cheap thrills and little victories to fill the void but you should realize by now that they will never be enough. You’re stuck in a relationship that’s designed to make you feel like nothing will ever be enough.
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