Now, it’s important to note that women are always the trouble-makers in a relationship. Men can be just as big screwups as women are. However, this article is only going to focus on the many common mistakes that women tend to make in relationships.
When it comes to relationships, you should be mature enough to know that love and effort aren’t enough to sustain the romance. There are just so many variables that go into trying to make a relationship work. And it’s always going to be complicated; you don’t want to be adding to that complicatedness by unknowingly making several mistakes. You still want to make sure that you are presenting your best self in relationships.
And that all starts with developing a sense of self-awareness in your relationships. You need always to be aware of the kind of image that you are portraying of yourself in the relationship. You want to make sure that you are doing all the right things to preserve the love and romance between the two of you. So, you want to make sure that you don’t commit any fatal mistakes that might potentially enlarge the gap between you both.
So, here you are. You’re showing a willingness to learn more about the dynamics of relationships. And that’s a good thing. That’s a significant first step. The more aware you are about these mistakes and their harmful effects, you will be better equipped to avoid committing them. So without much further ado, here are the ten most common mistakes that women tend to make in relationships:
1. You devalue your self.
You really can’t let your deepest insecurities get the best of you in a relationship. You always have to know your worth. If you want to convince another person to fall in love with you, you need to be able to fall in love with yourself.
2. You don’t allow your man to take care of you.
You need to make your man feel needed. Yes, you are a strong and independent woman. You can take care of yourself, and you don’t need a man. However, you still want to make him feel like he has a place in your life. He will want to feel like he adds worth and value to you.
3. You try to change your man into an idealized version of himself.
Don’t treat your man like some personal little passion project. Treat him like the human being that he is. Don’t turn him into an idealized version of himself that you have selfishly crafted on your own. Accept who he is and learn to love the parts of him that are less than perfect.
4. You don’t express gratitude or appreciation for your man.
Always give validation to his efforts in the relationship. If you leave all of the beautiful things that he does unnoticed, then he’s not going to feel enticed to do them for you. You can’t afford to be taking his gestures and efforts for granted. Always make him feel appreciated as much as possible.
5. You put yourself down because you’re scared of overshadowing him.
You can’t let yourself stay in the shadows just because you’re too afraid of hurting his ego. Keep in mind that if it’s true love, your man is always going to want you to shine. If your man is deserving of being with you, he will still want you to be at your best.
6. You draw drama into your life.
Men hate drama. And the more excitement that you draw into your life and relationship, the more he is going to want to distance himself from you. That’s just a fact of life.
7. You don’t make an effort to build trust between you.
Trust is crucial in sustaining a relationship. You need to learn to trust him and not control him, and you also need to make sure that you nurture and build whatever trust that he gives you.
8. You pressure him into committing to you.
Don’t rush or pressure him in your relationship. Respect the pace at which he wants to be taking things. You don’t want to pressure him into committing to you even before he’s ready to do so. That’s just a potential recipe for disaster in any relationship.
9. You don’t give him enough to be excited about having a future with you.
One of the biggest keys in ensuring the longevity in a relationship is having a future that the two of you can work towards. If you don’t get your man excited about having a future with you, then, likely, your relationship won’t last for the long-term at all.