When it comes to talks of love, you are always going to want to find ways to pursue love in your life. If you’re in a relationship, you are constantly trying to look for ways to build the level of love and closeness that you have with your partner. And you also know (because you’ve heard it from people so many times already) that one of the major aspects of sustaining a relationship is having quality communication. But what does it mean to have quality communication in a relationship?
Of course, you should know that it’s not enough that you talk to one another. It’s also important that your conversations and discussions are done with purpose. You should both be upping the quality of your conversations if you’re genuinely interested in getting intimate with one another; in getting closer to each other.
But what if you aren’t exactly the most skilled conversationalist in the world? What if you’re just not as eloquent as you would like to be? Does that mean that you are destined to have a life of failed romances because of your poor communication skills? Well, no. not necessarily. The first thing that you have to realize is that communication, like many other skills in life, can always be built and practiced. You just need to have the drive and motivation to do so. You have to WANT to be a better communicator to your partner if you are to become one. And to go along with that drive and motivation, it also helps if you know where you’re going to start. And that’s exactly where this article comes in. If you need some ideas on how you can have more intimate talks and discussions with your partner, then you have definitely come to the right place. Here are a few examples of conversations that you can have with your partner to build the intimacy in your relationship.
1. Share a very deep secret about you that no one else knows about.
There’s always something very intimate about the idea of exclusivity. And if you give your partner some scoop on your life that you haven’t shared to anyone else, then that’s something that can build intimacy. Exclusive conversations that ONLY the two of you have can really help you to become more intimate.
2. Articulate the things that you daydream about.
Talk to your partner about your fantasies. You can tell a lot about a person by the things that they daydream about. You are essentially giving your partner a glimpse into your mind. You are letting your partner into your psyche.
3. Express your gratitude and appreciation for your partner.
Whenever your partner does something nice for you, let them know that you’re grateful for it. You would be surprised at the amount of intimacy that you can build just by expressing your gratitude for one another’s efforts in the relationship.
4. Show your support for your partner’s goals and dreams.
There’s something inherently intimate about being able to make your partner feel that you always have their back; even when they’re in the pursuit of their dreams.
5. Find out about the things that are bothering or stressing your partner out.
Be inquisitive. If you take an interest in the life of your partner; even the parts that are negative or uncomfortable, then that’s something that builds your intimacy. You get closer to one another because your partner knows that you just aren’t in it for the happy stuff.
6. Talk about the future of your relationship and plan for it.
It’s always nice to be working towards something. When you have a shared goal with your partner, it gives you something to look forward to. You are giving yourselves a vision and an ideal to strive towards. Having shared goals can bring you closer together as a couple.
7. Discuss personal passions and philosophies with one another.
Learn more about one another. Get really deep with each other. Pour your heart out. You should always be able to trust one another enough to be honest.
8. Express WHY you love your partner.
Yes, it can be very easy to tell your partner why you love them. But you should never be content with just that. You should consistently be able to tell your partner WHY you love them. Justify your love for them. Let them know exactly why you’re crazy about them.
9. Have a necessary argument.
As counterintuitive as it may seem, it always pays to know how to argue constructively and effectively in a relationship. You aren’t always going to be able to see eye to eye on everything. You aren’t always going to be on the same page. However, when you know how to argue effectively and respectfully, you are able to overcome your differences as a couple and get closer to one another. You take the time to learn from each other and understand each other’s perspective.