There is just no denying the fact that girls and boys aren’t necessarily going to have an easy time when it comes to seeing eye to eye. You can try and try to be on the same page but it’s just not all that simple because of how differently you are both wired. And this can be especially tricky when you’re dating a guy and you’re trying to figure out if his feelings are real or not.
You don’t want to be made a fool of; and you don’t want to risk missing out on a great guy either. So what do you do? It’s important for you to read the signs. When you’re dating someone, it’s important for you to know whether he’s being serious with you or not. You don’t want to be falling in love so recklessly. You don’t want to be with someone who is just playing you.
You don’t want to get attached to someone who is only going to hurt you. And that’s why it’s important for you to stay guarded. You need to be able to protect yourselves from the guys who are just looking to make a game of it. And if you’re completely clueless as to whether a guy is into you or not, don’t worry. That’s what this article is for.
If you find that your man is guilty of a lot of the things that are listed here, then you really need to distance yourself from him. You need to make sure that you don’t let him play his games with you. It can be really hard to spot out the players, but if you know what you need to be looking for, then the signs can be as clear as day.
Granted, you aren’t going to be able to get into a guy’s mind and find out what he really thinks about you. You’re never going to be so sure that a guy likes you or not, but at least you’re going to have a fairly good idea if he’s just playing around with you.
1. He is inconsistent with his time and effort.
There are times wherein he really shows up and he acts all sweet with you; and then there are times wherein he will disappear off the map. You don’t know what you’re going to get with him at all. He’s always so hot and cold with how he treats you.
2. He replies to your texts, but he takes a long time to do so.
Sure, he replies to your messages. But he doesn’t really show any sense of urgency. It’s more like he’s only replying to you out of courtesy. And he doesn’t even want to take time out of his schedule to reply to you in a prompt manner.
3. He only ever wants to hang out with you in a group setting.
He likes spending time with you; but not in an intimate setting where it’s just the two of you. It always has to be a group. He doesn’t want to make it seem like you are getting really hot and serious about being together. He just wants things to remain casual.
4. He changes the topic whenever you want to define your relationship.
He always diverts the conversation into something else when you want to define the relationship. He doesn’t really want to solidify whatever it is you have together.
5. He flirts with you; but he also flirts with other girls as well.
That means he’s not totally serious on locking you down. He’s trying to keep his options open. He’s still playing the field. He’s not committing to you and he’s not really giving you any reason to commit to him as well.
6. He doesn’t take the initiative to make plans with you.
Sure, he makes plans with you, but he leaves all the decisions to you. He just tags along. He just goes with the flow. He doesn’t really take any initiative.
7. He tells you that he’s not ready for a relationship.
He is just laying the groundwork for his noncommittal nature. He is subtly letting you know that he’s not ready to be in a relationship WITH YOU in particular.
8. He barely acknowledges your presence on social media.
Sure, he follows you on Instagram and Twitter. You know that you’re friends on Facebook. But he never comments on any of your posts. He never likes your pictures. He doesn’t even send you any DM’s.
9. You get the sense that he’s hiding a lot of things from you.
You always feel like he isn’t being his true self; you can never feel safe around him. You get the sense that he’s hiding so many things from you. He isn’t really giving you much reason to trust him.