1. Talking too much post-coital.
intimacy can be a very exhausting and strenuous activity. One of the last things he’s going to want to do right after a moment of physical closeness is have a very deep and profound conversation with you. You’re going to have to be mindful of his mood and energy. After being intimate, just lay with one another and have sweet pillow talk. Don’t be looking to have deep and profound philosophical conversations with your partner right away.
2. Failing to practice good hygiene.
This should really be something that doesn’t need to be pointed out anymore at this point. If you’re going to have a intimate lifestyle with your partner, then you should always be practising good hygiene. The quickest way to drive him away from the bedroom would be for him to discover just how dirty and gross you are with how you take care of your body. You wouldn’t want to be being intimate with someone who has bad body odour, right?
3. Immediately getting busy right post-coitus.
Imagine this. You’re having really amazing intimacy. You’re really connecting with your partner on both a physical and emotional level. You both reach a moment of closeness and decide to end your time together. And the moment that the both of you finish, you immediately get up and start fixing things around the bedroom or house. That’s very impersonal. It’s going to make him feel like your time together was just another chore on your to-do list. Lay with him for a bit and just bask in the moment.
4. Rushing into doing the deed.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that only women are the ones who can get really into intimacy. You have to remember that a man’s excitement isn’t necessarily something that he can just initiate at the flick of a switch. He can’t just command his male anatomy to get hard whenever he wants. You’re going to have to invest some time and energy into getting him into the mood intimate. You can’t just always be jumping right into the sack expecting him to be ready to take you on.
5. Acting too pushy and controlling.
You are the one who always decides how you spend time together. You are always playing the role of the director. You are always telling him where to be, what position to put himself in, and how fast he has to be moving. It’s very degrading. Even if he’s not exactly a dominant type of person, don’t be treating him in such a bossy manner. Still, treat him with utmost respect and love. Be more caring than you are controlling. Don’t make him feel like he’s just some intimacy object you can control at will. If you notice frequent signs of emotional manipulation in relationships, it may be time to reevaluate how you interact with your partner. Healthy intimacy should involve mutual respect and understanding, rather than power dynamics that leave one person feeling inferior. It’s essential to foster an environment where both partners feel valued and heard, rather than one overwhelmed by control or dominance.
6. Being too critical of his performance.
There’s always room for some criticism in the relationship even when it comes to intimacy. But you really have to be sensitive about it because a lot of men can be very insecure about their intimate performance. Just make sure that you are approaching the criticism in a way that doesn’t make him feel bad. Don’t make it seem like you are scolding him or making him feel unworthy of being close to you.
7. Being overly selfish when you’re close.
Don’t be selfish. Don’t always just be thinking about yourself. Yes, you want to have a good time. But it takes two to tango, as they say. When you’re being intimate with someone, you can’t be treating him like some toy for personal pleasure. He is a human being who has his own personal needs as well; intimate needs. You need to show him that you are mindful of his needs and willing to make an effort to help him feel happy and close to you.
8. Having the same kind of intimacy over and over again.
intimacy is great even when you’re doing it all of the time. However, the problem with having frequent intimacy is that you might be resorting to the same process over and over again. And intimacy can be boring when it’s just monotonous and predictable. Yes, it’s good to have your own set of moves and positions that you know you can always go back to and fall back on. However, you should always be willing to try new things. Show him that you’re up for trying something new together so you can break the monotony.
9. Failing to show initiative when it comes to intimacy.
He’s not always going to feel good about being the initiator when it comes to intimacy. Show him that you’re just as into it as he is. Be the one who gets him into the mood even when he doesn’t ask you. Show him that you crave for physical intimacy just as much as he does.
