9 Painful Signs That Your Partner Is No Longer In Love With You

Maintaining a healthy and loving relationship requires effort and commitment from both partners. However, there may come a time when you start to suspect that your partner’s feelings have changed. In this discussion, we will explore the painful signs that your partner is no longer in love with you.

By recognizing these signs, you can take steps towards addressing the issues and making informed decisions about the future of your relationship.

1. Your partner disregards your feelings

If your partner consistently ignores or dismisses your emotions, it may suggest that they no longer believe your feelings are important. This can leave you feeling undervalued and hurt within the relationship.

2. Your partner is indifferent to your opinions

When your partner consistently shows indifference to your thoughts and opinions, it may signal a lack of respect and consideration for your viewpoint. This can leave you feeling unheard and unimportant in the relationship.

3. Your partner no longer shows appreciation

If your partner ceases to express gratitude or appreciation for your efforts, it can be a sign that they no longer value your contributions to the relationship. This can lead to feelings of unappreciated and unloved.

4. Your partner neglects your needs

When your partner consistently disregards your needs and desires, it can be a sign that they no longer prioritize your happiness and well-being. This can result in feelings of neglect and dissatisfaction in the relationship.

5. Your partner Is secretive about their actions

If your partner becomes unusually secretive about their actions, whereabouts, or who they spend time with, it may indicate a lack of trust or respect in the relationship. This secrecy can lead to feelings of mistrust and insecurity.

6. Your partner doesn’t share future plans

When your partner fails to include you in discussions about future plans or avoids making long-term commitments with you, it could indicate that they don’t see you as part of their future. This can be painful and leave you questioning the relationship’s direction.

7. Your partner acts distant and aloof

When your partner becomes emotionally distant, aloof, or disconnected from you, it can be a clear sign of waning affection and love. This emotional distance can create feelings of isolation and sadness in the relationship.

8. Your partner chooses others over you

If your partner often chooses to be with their friends, family, or other things they need to do instead of spending quality time with you, it might mean they’re putting those things before you now. This can make you feel alone and like they’re not paying enough attention to you.

9. Your Partner Avoids Conflict Resolution

If your partner tries to dodge or ignore problems in the relationship instead of working together to solve them, it may mean they aren’t putting effort into making the relationship better. This can result in problems that don’t get fixed and a lot of ongoing stress and unhappiness.

Share Your Thoughts:

What signs have you noticed that might indicate your partner’s feelings have changed? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below!

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      1. He shows signs in every category besides choosing others over me. That is actually something I do for many reasons and not because I don’t love him. I keep myself pretty much isolated and alone in my craft room while I’m at home. I only do these things because he has completely disregarded my emotions and desires and made me feel like I’m not important anymore. he gets upset and refuses to discuss any issues we have in our relationship or try to fix it other than telling me everything I do wrong in his eyes or will flat out refuse to talk about it. Ladies, what would you do if you were me? he hasn’t cared about sex in 3 years or made me feel loved other than material gifts.

        1. Leave him snd start to respect and love yourself. Focused on your self development and interests. Your perspective will change and start to enjoy life more. Women are not defined by their men and their relationships with men Women are defined by how they make themselves but you have to work for it and the work must start from oneself! Because nobody knows yourself and what you are capable of except yourself, You create your own happiness. On the other side of the spectrum, women must also understand the partners need and demands and willing to give what they expect to receive. Reciprocity is fairness in relationships

        2. Nichole baby girl I guess you better look for another man who will give you the love you deserve,cause this one no longer values you,and that means there’s some lady out there that he values,that’s why he’s acting up like that cause he no longer cares about you and everything that included you,he moved on long time ago,hes deeply inlove with someone out there,the reason why he hasn’t broke up with you is that he doesn’t have the guts to tell you that straight in your eyes but he no longer loves you so I would advice you to just leave the guy and get yourself a real man that will respect and give you the love you deserve cause always hurt with the one you dating right now

          and don’t ever blame yourself or think that there’s something wrong with you#HELL NO there’s nothing wrong with you .
          it’s not you it’s him

          1. Some lady can be with you not because they love you but they are with you looking for better option, I was treated like that just recently.

        3. It sounds like you’re roommates instead of life partners. The lack of concern for you along with highlighting the things he considers you are doing wrong is a clear statement of detachment. The fact of him not having any issues and puts no effort towards the non existent intimacy/sex life between the two of you speaks in high volume of where he stands. Communication and intimacy are important factors to keeping a strong and lasting connection. It also takes both being invested in maintaining the relationship. You need to decide what it truly is that you need and want so that you’ll know what steps to take to find happiness. I hope this helps you

        4. she I dicates all the above signs except of being secretive about things, she says she needs space and wants to move on to explore more and let time judge the future if the relationship . I am confused with what she exactly wants.

    1. Submit yourself most a time you don’t Submit yourself when he work to feed the family in return he needs submission and respect to fuel him moving. When you Submit yourself his duties becomes responsibilities and if you don’t his duties becomes burden that is why he avoiding you. My tought thought

  1. All of those are exactly how our supposed relationship is/was!!!!
    Now, I’ve been left with absolutely nothing!

  2. My partner doesn’t work like a team and he also like saying that I’m the one that’s starting the argument with him and and he like playing this verse psychology game

  3. I can’t go see friend or family, if I do I get accused if wanting to spend more times with them (husband and I don’t work… I just want a break every now and then 🙁

    1. Get a job and start putting money away. You will get a break and maybe things will work out, and if not you have your own funds to leave.

  4. I can relate to every o w of those “signs”. My husband has become all of this over the last 2 years. I feel like we are just coexisting. That’s it. I don’t even sleep in the bed because he makes me feel so unwanted. I’ve asked about what’s going on or more so what’s not going on with us and he never has an answer that is sufficient. We’ll have been together for 5 years in October… if we make it that long.

  5. Yes, I’m in the same boat N have found other females intertwined within our relationship but when confronted he. Denies it all. Never in the 30 years together has he ever put me down n the other day he said I was fling retarded bitch!!! And he has chose these females over me n watched me cry about all of it n had no care about it.

    1. I am going through the same at the moment and I don’t know what to do he runs off at 10pm and not come back till 5:30pm the next day and if I ask him what he is doing and he just tells me to shut up and then I found a few messages on he’s phone when he was asleep and he has messages from girls on he’s phone and when I asked him if he had ever been with any girls when we are meant to be together and he just lied to my face and told me to f**king shut up and calling me every name under the sun and moon.what should I do I need advice. Thanks everyone 😭😭

      1. Oh my goodness, you deserve so much better than that. I understand that it can be hard to leave someone who you love and care for, but seriously, if he’s treating you like that and saying such horrible things to you, this is just the tip of the iceberg and it will continue. By staying, you are telling him that his behaviour is acceptable. That in itself is dispicable behaviour, but he goes out and doesn’t come back until the morning and you’ve found messages on his phone from other girls too……ask yourself what advice you would give to a friend who was telling you their partner was treating them like this or if this was a daughter of yours? then you have your answer

      2. You deserve to be happy. Leave him, you can find a better one. Or stay single and be happy being with your family

  6. 39 years. I’m done! Treated this way (1 of 9) throughout. Filed for divorce last week and looking towards happiness!

  7. I was in a relationship like this. Then after 8 years of being together and one year of marriage I was done. Unfortunately he collected a lot of debt that I got when we got married. That should be number 10 doesn’t discuss finances. Anyway declared bankruptcy and the month after discharge I filed for divorce.

    Now I am in a healthy relationship we talk about everything, yes we argue but we also make up and whoever was wrong owns it. He loves me and has no problem showing it. Good luck to you all. Sometimes you have to walk through the rain to find the rainbow.

  8. My husband has lived a double life with his mistress for nearly 5 yrs now . He ticks every single action mentioned above. I new from day one but I was putting must purposely In denial and I never followed him but I k we where and who he was until he started acting like he purposely wanted to be caught,so I did catch him cheating and the evidence was enormous but I ve him so much and I was fighting so much with him to keep him. Even I approached the slut mistress and forgave him a million times and today I finally filed for divorce. She can have him he also bashes me up regularly we have a domestic bit order in place she can have him god bless them both I am free and happy now. Those sort of people do not deserve to live on this planet

  9. He is likes watching wrestling and staying up late talking to other women that I don’t know
    He talk to my. Friends all the time but they
    Never talk to me

  10. When you need 6 weeks of “Me Time” and no communications, some things wrong in a long term relationship.

  11. 2 years with a guy and hes pulling this shit now. i wrote him a letter telling him how i feel. being second nowin his life. i asked him to read and get back to me its been a week now .
    can not do this .so glad i did not move in with him
    . i have my own house that do not want to loss it
    thank gosh . i just want some one to.love me for me

  12. Over 30 years of marriage and he has done this type of treatment for 5 years to me. He got like that when I found out he was cheating. While he was cheating he was acting very loving. He treats us like we’re divorced. So disrespected and hurtful.

  13. IDK I guess I can deal w most of the signs, i.e. when he goes out, I do like self-care stuff for myself, I’ll catch up on chores, take my time doing things I like to enjoy on my own. So that doesn’t bother me at all. letting him get his breather from home makes him come back all happy and nice.
    For the most part I think that most men that I’ve dated at least have always put my opinions and my thoughts and my considerations as second degree because they believe they’re the man of the house so there’s is more important mine so maybe not maybe maybe a suggestion would be compromised or negotiated or even giving me the, “yeah you’re right on this one”, type of comment; I’m just like “eh” okay I still do what I need to do and I let him do what he wants anyways so it don’t bother me much…
    what drives me mad, is when I get falsely accused of stealing, cheating, lying, doing things on purpose type remarks is the biggest sign that they are already doing all these things themselves because only a liar and a cheater call others liars and cheaters.

  14. Almost 40 years ago, I married an American in Australia, he had arrived in our church, loud mouthed and full of being a “Christian”. I was a single mother with a ten year old son. I had a great job as Book Store Controller, and my son in private Christian school. Michael Bentley, was determined to get me to the alter, he wooed me, and showed off to all that he cared for me, BUT behind closed doors he was a bully, loud mouthed, full of lies, and secretive. Life was hell for my son and myself. We went on a vacation and ended up returning to Australia alone, he turned up several weeks later, after goodness knows what drugs and alcohol parties. He was to attend second year bible college, but was kicked out as the powers suggested he was too much of a distraction. It was evident to all he was not keeping a Christian life. He lied to immigration, he had nine counts of grand larceny in California, he lied to me his wife, re his past behavior, marriages, drunken parties. My poor son was so confused, all the lies unraveled as Bentley went on drinking sprees. Finally he apologized, “like he was going to change”… he still hit me, and abused me, and then he decided we were going to return to America. I agreed only after counselling with Margaret Court the tennis star in Australia…….(a relationship Michael Bentley had fostered). All my gear and furniture was packed up…….and shipped to the USA……we brought my son’s little dog. I was not here four weeks and Michael took off leaving me alone. My son arrived with dog….. Michael turned up, took us to a motel owned by his relatives, and then started hitting me and threatening my young son……. I hid in my son’s room and refused to come out. I called MB relatives, who put son and myself in another room…… Michael Bentley had gone off drinking…….the following morning the family took us to the airport, gave me flight tickets and my son two hundred dollars. Michael was nowhere to be found………. I got back to Australia……..and he arrived several weeks later. I could take no more…….the promises were empty, lies were plentiful. The brain of MB was tarnished by alcohol……he is/was a very sick man. He had several marriages behind him, and all abusive.
    I dont know if he is still alive, but he robbed me of half the money put into a shared home. I had to leave, never knowing when he was going to hit me, or throw me across a room. I found out from children of a previous marriage that MB was like that to their mother, now deceased. He married another woman after me……..who had a dwarf child due to them both drinking and drugging heavily. She made contact with me, wanting help to leave him. He took the kids away from her……and then got her to be a nanny for them……..as he could get no one else. I could go on forever, I wont……. I presume he is continuing his lies and drunken way of life. He had a car wreck in Winter Haven Florida, due to alcohol, and bribed to policeman not to report his drunkenness. Sound impossible to believe but it is the truth.

  15. I was in love with someone who has often sent me mixed signals. He broke my heart and ended up ghosting me. A year after we reconnected and I told him how hurt I was and he apologised but ended up treating me the same way. I realised that along all the time we were connected to eachother he showed a lot of these signs and it shows me that he never truly loved me. All this time it was one sided. I decided that I no longer want to be emotionally connected to him and detached myself from these feelings I had for him. Now I feel at peace and free. I will never allow a man to treat me that way and take advantage of me. I am ready to love someone that will love me back as much as I do. I know it will happen in due time

  16. I believe I’m the one in my marriage that is exhibiting these painful behaviors. I’m in a23 year relationship and have stayed, despite feeling the lack of intimacy and love, because I’m committed to my partner and don’t want to hurt them. They are my best friend, but we haven’t been intimate for 10 years and although we’re affectionate there is no passion or spark. I know those things fade over time, but should they disappear altogether? Is it wrong to stay in this situation because of our history and the commitment we made to each other? Or is it better to split to allow each other to find the right person for us. I’m torn down to my core over these questions.

  17. I hear you.
    26yrs with mine,no sex for 6yrs not even a cuddle anymore.
    I spoke up and they said ok sex every 4 days then lol I’m a sex addict, they know that for day 1.
    They told me not long ago they have never had any interest in sex at all were only doing to please me WTF .
    It made feel like I have been living a lie for 26yrs, I had a huge rant on my Facebook page.
    They then increased sex day to once every two weeks LOL.
    So now they are going to see a shrink but the passion and the connection has gone.

  18. My partner is ignoring me this days , he doesn’t respond to my texts and calls anymore. When he sees me I can see he want to run away
    I am asking myself what I have done to him

  19. Signs are quite Good and matching the married life and most of us are facing one or many of these situations but there is no solution to keep healthy sex life expect choose extra maternal affairs

  20. Those of you who test their relationships against these parametres which evidently does not take under consideration the fact that human beings are unique with capabilities of varying expression of love and care, are definitely going to miss the magic of relationship. A modern tendency is to apply formula to everything. This is ridiculous. Spend time, be honest even if mechanically, everything will fall into slots. A little bit of dusting and the glass will shine again. Dont avenge your partner’s indifference with indifference.

  21. Those of you who test their relationships against these parametres which evidently do not take under consideration the fact that human beings are unique with capabilities of varying expressions of love and care, are definitely going to miss the magic of relationship. A modern tendency is to apply formula to everything. This is ridiculous. Spend time, be honest even if mechanically, everything will fall into slots. A little bit of dusting and the glass will shine again. Dont avenge your partner’s indifference with indifference.

  22. she deprived me of sex and doesn’t even care,she rarely visits, whenever we kiss she’ll stop and I beg her for common romance nowadays. I’m so in pains

  23. My husband cheated several times on me…. Then I forgive him take him back… He stays for days away then he wants to come back and beg me telling me he loves me so much… He always insult and accused me of cheating but he is the one doing all this he reasonly did all above again and I told him to leave it is hard and I’m trying to stick to my decision

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