We have to face it. As human beings, we are always going to try to find a way to accomplish a task in the easiest way possible. A lot of us will try to justify it by saying that we’re just being efficient. However, the truth is that a lot of things are always going to require a lot of time and effort.
And in your relationship, you have to realize that there aren’t many shortcuts that you can take. You never want to end up taking your relationship for granted. You never want your partner to feel like you don’t really value them.
Don’t make the same mistake that a lot of couples tend to make: the ones who think that everything is going so smoothly and easily that they believe it’s okay to relax and coast.
That’s the quickest way to let your partner know that you aren’t really interested in making an effort for them anymore. If you’re genuinely interested in strengthening and deepening the intimacy in your relationship, then read on until the end of this article.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve only just started dating or if you’ve already been seeing each other for plenty of years now. You are always looking to take your relationship to the next level. And you can’t do that unless you are able to strengthen the bond that you have with each other.
You need to be able to deepen the level of intimacy in your relationship. And that doesn’t just happen by accident. And this is how you’re going to go about it.
In the everyday life of your relationship, it can be very easy to sweep a lot of issues under the rug and then just forget that they’re there.
And if you just happen to be one of those people who fail to make an effort to get to know your partner on an intimate level, then you never know about the many expectations you might not be meeting.
You might not be meeting your partner’s needs and standards anymore without you even knowing it. That’s why it’s important for the two of you to always be engaging in constant communication with one another – and quality communication at that.
It is our recommendation that you ask your partner some of these questions every once in a while just so you are always on the same page with one another.
And when you decide to have these discussions, it’s important that you get rid of all possible distractions. Put your phones away. Shut your laptops off. Get the television remote away from you. Make sure that all chores and errands are accomplished so that nothing else is on your mind.
You would be surprised at how therapeutic a deep 30-minute conversation can be for your relationship. And to help deepen the quality of your discussion, you might want to consider asking the following questions to your partner.
1. What can I do to help make you feel more loved?
There is always a way for you to improve the way you can showcase your love to your partner.
2. Is there anything that I have done recently that may have hurt you?
You don’t always know that your partner is fine with everything that you do. You have to make them feel like they are open to discussing their feelings with you at all times.
3. When you get home from work, is there something that you would be looking for in particular?
This is a very nice way to make your partner know that you always stay mindful of their needs at a time wherein they might feel particularly tired or exhausted.
4. What kind of physical touch do you enjoy the most?
You always want to know what kind of physical touch would make your partner feel most loved and appreciated.
5. How much individual time do you need for yourself every week?
You still need to be able to respect each other’s individuality even when you’re in a relationship.
6. Are there any arguments in the past that you feel like we haven’t resolved?
You never want there to be any unresolved issues between the two of you. That can breed a lot of hatred and contempt.
7. What do you think about our sex life as of late?
Sex is always going to be important in a contemporary relationship. You always want to make sure that you are both staying physically intimate with one another.
8. What has been stressing you out lately and how can I help?
Just think of it this way: the less stress that you feel in your individual lives, the less stress there is going to be on your relationship.
9. What issues do you feel most uncomfortable talking about and how can I help?
You always want your partner to feel comfortable with talking to you about anything. You never want them to feel like anything is out of bounds.