How long did it take you to say “I love you”?
I love you may be the three most powerful combination of words in the English language. A lot of us say it on a daily basis to the people who mean the most to us. It’s a very basic means of acknowledging another person’s worth in our lives. It is the essential tool for emotionally connecting to another person with whom we share intimacy and endearment. But sometimes, just when we’re getting to know people in a relationship, we may have the irrational urge to blurt these three words out. We have to be able to take a step back and restrain ourselves.
While saying I love you to your partner has its place in every relationship, it should all come in perfect time.
1. True love always needs its time to grow.
True love can never be rushed. True love always needs its time underground to cultivate and develop into something real. You can’t force it to grow on your preferred time. It will naturally find its way to the surface when the time is right. If you want your expression of love to be as genuine as possible, then make sure that your love in itself is already fully grown and cultivated.
2. Saying I Love You won’t fix the problems in your relationship.
A lot of people will use saying I love you as a way to get out of trouble in the relationship. Love doesn’t have the power to fix all problems in the world. Love alone cannot sustain all relationships. You need to understand that as early as now. And if you think that saying I love you is enough to fix your problems as a couple, then it just goes to show that you don’t really understand what love is.
3. Your openness can be intimidating.
It doesn’t matter whether your feelings are genuine or not. It doesn’t matter whether you say it sincerely or poorly. You have to understand that people will receive what you say in different manners. You have to know your partner well enough before you admit your love. Sometimes, people will get intimidated and be turned off by your openness. So be very cautious before you start expressing your love for another person. It’s not just a matter of whether you’re ready to say it. You have to know if your partner is ready to hear it from you.
4. You don’t want to take anything away from the perfect moment.
There’s nothing quite like the first time you admit your love for another person. It’s a magical experience and it’s absolutely indescribable. You don’t want to take away the magic from that perfect moment of ripeness by admitting your love at the wrong time. You have to make sure that the timing is right so as not to take anything away from the beauty of the initial admission.
5. You can’t use it as a way to make someone stay.
If you feel like you’re starting to lose your partner, then you can’t just resort to saying I love you thinking that it’s going to have the power to change your partner’s mind. You can’t use an expression of love as a bargaining chip. You can’t guilt another person with your love because that’s not what real love is. You are bastardizing the expression whenever you do that. If you want to keep someone from leaving, then try talking things out. Don’t just mindlessly exclaim your love for that person.
6. You might end up regretting it because you’re rushing.
Never do anything in haste. You might end up regretting your decision in the future. And you never want to be the person who regrets an expression of love. You have to be sure about your relationship and your partner. You have to make sure that your partner is actually worthy of your love before you say anything.
7. You can never be impulsive with your emotions.
Love should never be a nosedive out of the plane. Love shouldn’t have to be a mindless freefall from a cliff. Love is a gradual and controlled experience. You have to have a good mastery of your emotions before you can really know that your feelings are real. If you just keep acting on impulses, you might end up betraying yourself.
8. Love can mean different things to different people.
This is another instance wherein you have to take your partner’s psychology into consideration. Sure, you may genuinely be in love with your partner. That doesn’t mean it’s ripe for you to be expressing your love already. You have to be able to know how your partner feels about love. You have to know your partner’s expectations about being in love. Once you get a better understanding of where your partner stands on love, then you have a better grasp of when to express your own affections.
9. Because you should never feel pressured into saying it.
No one should ever compel you to say that you love someone. Don’t succumb to the pressures of the people around you. Love should be innate and natural. It should be organic and simple. Love should be raw and unadulterated. It should come from your innermost being and not from anyone else.
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