1. You might get sucked back down the hole of that terrible relationship.
There’s a chance that the two of you might get back together if you reach out to your ex. And you might think that that’s what you really want; but think about it, is it something that you need? Because it’s likely that the answer is no.
2. It’s going to affirm your lack of self-control and self-respect.
To put it bluntly, it’s just downright pathetic if you’re going to go back to your ex after your breakup. You guys broke up for a reason. You know that you needed to end your relationship because it wasn’t working out – and you realized that it would never work out. If the circumstances haven’t changed between the two of you, what makes you think that you’re going to be able to make things work this time around? Have some self-respect. Control yourself. Focus on moving forward and don’t look back anymore. It’s not healthy. And it’s not a good look on you.
3. You’re going to lose your power over your ex.
Yes, there is a certain power play that takes place after a breakup; and you never want to be the first one to break. You never want to show your weakness even when you know that you’re feeling weak. You can’t admit to your ex that you’re losing the breakup. If you do so, you are damaging your own ego in the process; and it’s going to make it so much harder for you to move on in life.
4. It’s going to make the healing process a lot more difficult.
Breakups can open some very deep and substantial emotional wounds. And when you have these wounds, you need to isolate yourself from the person who gave you these wounds in the first place if you want them to heal. Getting back in touch with your ex would be you just reopening that wound over and over again without giving it the time and space that it needs to cauterize and bruise.
5. You are going to be distracted from the more important things in life.
This is going to take a lot out of you and so it’s better to just sit this one out. It can be really rough when you have to go through the perils of heartbreak; the pain of separation. And that’s why it’s important for you to still be able to focus on the good things in life; the things that you should still be thankful for. If you are too busy trying to chat with your ex again, you might fail to remind yourself of the many other important things that require your attention.
6. You will deprive yourself of the chance to find the love that’s meant for you.
The longer that you stay hung up on your ex, the longer it’s going to take for you to find the one who is really meant to be with you forever. You have to accept the fact that some people are just designed to be temporary in your life. They aren’t meant to stick around forever. And so when your ex’s chapter has ended – you need to focus on turning that page and moving on to the next phases of the story. If you get hung up on your ex, you aren’t going to be able to progress to where you need to be.
7. You are welcoming back all of the toxicity into your life.
It was a toxic relationship and that’s why you needed to end it. You both knew that if you carried on any further, you would both suffocate from all of the toxicity. So why would you want to be welcoming back all of that toxicity into your life by reaching out to your ex again?
8. You are going to end up feeling confused over what you’re supposed to be doing.
After a heartbreak, you are going to be processing a lot of feelings – and it’s likely that these feelings can be very overwhelming. You are going to have to confront so many emotions at a single time; and that’s not easy at all. You don’t want to make things even more complicated than they already are by entertaining thoughts of getting back in touch with your ex. Remember that your ex is the reason for your emotional whirlwind in the first place.
9. You are going to be taking away the time that you desperately need to be spending on yourself.
When you go through a breakup – you are emerging into a whole new world. This is especially true if you were in that relationship for a particularly long time. And when you go back into your single life, you might struggle with coming to terms with who you are now in this new phase of your journey. You might need to take a lot of time to rediscover yourself as an individual – and if you allow yourself to be consumed with thoughts of your ex, you are never going to be able to do so.