You practically see it everywhere at this point. Infidelity is just as rampant now as it has ever been. You might read about it in the news about celebrity marriages being broken up because of third-party affairs. You see it in your friends who seem to be cheating or get cheated on at this moment. You might have even grown up in a household that exposed you to infidelity and unfaithfulness in your own family.
The sad truth is that cheating and infidelity just isn’t going away any time soon. There are even some arguments and studies that say that infidelity is hardwired into our DNA. But that is a topic for another time. What this article is going to try to focus on are the red flags and signs that your husband might actually be cheating on you.
It always hurts to discover that the person you are madly in love with is having an affair with someone else. That’s the kind of pain that you wouldn’t even want to wish on your harshest enemy. And while ignorance may indeed be bliss, you never want to be made a fool out of.
You never want to be giving your love to someone who is undeserving of it; someone who doesn’t even have the guts to tell you that the is cheating. You shouldn’t have to put up with infidelity in any relationship at all – no matter how much you might love a person.
That is why you always want to be staying on top of your relationship. Unfortunately, cheaters do a fairly good job of hiding their tracks. They know how to not get caught in their infidelity. That is why you always want to be staying vigilant. Sure, you always want to see the best in your partner. But that doesn’t mean that you should be blind to all the bad stuff either. Here are a few red flags that your partner might actually be cheating on you.
1. He changes his attitude towards you.
It’s as if he’s irritable all of the time at this point. Even the slightest thing in the relationship is enough to set him off and start an argument. He gets pissed off way too easily nowadays. It’s like he’s disgusted by being with you.
2. He has grown distant from you.
You have somehow felt like he’s been slipping away from you. He’s been growing more and more distant with you. He doesn’t feel so accessible to you anymore.
3. He compensates his guilt by being uncharacteristically nice to you.
He is acting really nice to you. But it’s very weird and uncharacteristic of him to do so. It’s likely that he’s feeling guilty and he’s trying to make up for it by treating you a lot better than he used to.
4. He exhibits very unusual and unpredictable behavior.
He acts very weird whenever he is with you. He is like a different person now. It’s as if he isn’t the same guy you once fell in love with and married.
5. You barely even see him around at this point.
He doesn’t really try to spend much time on you or your marriage anymore. He says that he’s been working late but you somehow suspect that that isn’t necessarily the case. You get the feeling that it’s so much more than just extra time at work.
6. He is so hard to reach or get a hold of.
He seems to be off the grid whenever the two of you are not together. He somehow manages to make it so hard for you to reach him whenever you aren’t in the same room.
7. Your instincts are telling you that something is just off.
Always learn to trust your gut. It’s there for a reason after all. Your instincts are there to protect you from yourself.
8. He is like a totally different animal in the sack.
He seems to have picked up a few new moves and your sex has drastically improved. Or maybe, he seems completely disinterested in sex as a whole. Either way, any drastic changes in your sexual life is a cause for concern.
9. He is very defensive when you ask him questions.
He gets really defensive whenever you start to ask him about what his plans are, who he’s going to be with, where he’s going. He’s going to treat it like some kind of interrogation.
Of course, you can’t be the kind of wife who is just paranoid all the time. But you can’t allow yourself to be a passive and naïve wife either. When you suspect your husband of cheating on you, you need to be able to talk to him about it. Don’t be confrontational. Just try to approach him sensibly. If he comes clean, good. If he denies it, give him the benefit of the doubt but just keep digging.