If you think that it’s possible for you to not take your relationship seriously and still have everything work out in the end for you, then you have another thing coming. Relationships are hard. They aren’t designed for the weak and the immature.
You are always going to need to exert a certain amount of time, effort, and dedication into your relationship if you even want to have a chance at going all the way. Otherwise, you’re just going to be wasting a lot of your time and energy on a relationship that practically has an expiry date.
Sure, you can be in love with your partner. But without the proper effort and commitment, the relationship isn’t really going to be going anywhere. You are effectively placing a ceiling on your relationship by refusing to prioritize it.
It’s important to note that a relationship doesn’t necessarily have to be the only thing that makes up your life, but it would also be naïve to assume that you can constantly deprioritize your relationship in favor of other things and still expect your relationship to be strong and healthy. Remember that in life, the things that we give the most time to are often the things that we get really good at;
these are the things that we exert the most effort in, and these are the things that we’re going to excel and find success in as well. It’s not enough that you’re just going to be passionate about your relationship and your partner. You need to really be SERIOUS about committing your time to your relationship. If you take your love for granted, you might as well start planning the funeral for your relationship right now.
And that’s why you also need to find yourself a man who is going to take you seriously as well. Because you can exert as much effort as you can into a relationship; but if your man isn’t going to consider you a priority, then your relationship is doomed and all of your efforts are futile. How do you know if you’re with someone who really knows how to prioritize you above other things in life? Well, here are a few signs that you could be on the lookout for.
1. You don’t feel like you have to compete for his attention.
He is always giving you a lot of his time and attention. Sure, there are other aspects of his life that he tends to every now and then. He also has other people in his life that he spends time with. But you are never made to feel like you have to compete with any of them. He always shows a willingness to spend time with you.
2. He shows a willingness to adjust his plans and schedule for you.
He is adaptable. He isn’t selfish. He knows that if he’s going to accommodate you into his life, he’s going to have to learn to compromise. He understands that he’s going to have to meet you halfway on a lot of things if he really wants you to fall for him.
3. He really treats you with respect.
He would never make you feel like he sees you as a lesser person. He is always going to make it a point to give you the respect that you deserve because he doesn’t take you for granted.
4. He always stays honest with you.
He doesn’t lie to you. He wants you to be able to trust him. And he wants you to know that he would never betray whatever trust you give him. He’s always going to be very clear and upfront with you about anything you might want to know about him.
5. He rarely ever makes promises that he can’t keep.
Your impression of him is very important to him. He doesn’t want you to see him in a bad light. And that’s why he always tries his best to live up to his words.
6. And he apologizes for the times that he comes up short.
And whenever he does come up short; whenever he fails to meet expectations, he is always quick to humble himself and apologize. He can always swallow his pride for the sake of the relationship.
He really notices the little things. He knows that even the simplest aspects of the relationship are just as important as the grandest parts of it.
8. He includes you in planning and decision-making.
He never makes you feel excluded in your own relationship. He treats you like a genuine partner. He always asks you for advice before he moves forward or comes to any major decisions.
9. He is always there for you even when he gets nothing out of it.
There are some men who are just plain users; men who would only ever really do nice things for you if they know that they can get something out of it. But he’s different. He is there for you whether he stands to benefit from it or not.