It can be incredibly painful whenever it happens. You meet someone who you like; and you think that you actually have some kind of connection with one another. And so you start engaging in the usual semantics of starting a relationship. You talk to one another often. You hang out a lot. You exchange a few text messages here and there. And you might even start to develop a kind of rhythm with one another.
But then that rhythm suddenly goes awry. He isn’t as consistent with you as he used to be. He doesn’t seem like he’s all-in anymore and so you start to question if he’s just leading you on for a temporary ride. You don’t want to allow yourself to fall for someone who is just stringing you along like a dog.
You want to be in a real relationship with someone who treats you seriously. And as hard as it might be to accept that he’s really just leading you on, you’re going to have to accept the truth.
Sometimes, our brains have a way of ignoring the things that we don’t want to believe. We can let our feelings get the best of us and we end up blinding ourselves to the truth. And that should never be the case. So if you have the slightest suspicion that he is leading you on, you need to be vigilant.
You need to be able to call him out on it or just walk away completely. Otherwise, you are only setting yourself up for getting hurt in the end.
1. He only ever really compliments you on how you look.
This means that he’s only ever really attracted to you on a physical level. And anything beyond that, he just isn’t interested. He has no emotional connection to you at all. He’s probably only after you because of your looks so the best-case scenario would be for the two of you to have a physical relationship. But you shouldn’t count on him actually committing to you.
2. He also is very liberal with how he compliments other women.
Of course, if a man were truly interested in being with just you, he would consciously make an effort to make you feel special and unique in his life. So he wouldn’t really be throwing around flirty compliments to other girls if he were truly interested in you.
3. He keeps on canceling plans with you on a consistent basis.
A man who doesn’t really value his word when it comes to you is a man who just isn’t interested in you. He isn’t so invested in portraying a good image of himself to you because he doesn’t really care how you see him. That’s why he doesn’t honor his promises or commitments to you.
4. He doesn’t really make long-term plans with you.
He doesn’t plan too far ahead into the future with you because the truth is that he really doesn’t envision having a future with you at all. He sees whatever the two of you have as some kind of temporary setup.
5. He always forces you to adjust to his schedule.
He never bends his time for you – and he’s always looking to you to adjust your schedule for him. It’s because he can’t be bothered to make time for you – to him, you’re not really worth making time for.
6. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends; or if he does, they know nothing about you.
Ordinarily, if a guy were really serious with a girl, he would be talking her up to his friends. He would be telling them about how amazing she is and how serious he is about her. And so, it’s always a bad sign if you never get the opportunity of meeting his friends. It means he doesn’t want to let you into that part of his life.
7. He doesn’t really think it important to reply to your messages early.
In fact, he might not even really reply to your messages at all until you actually bug him about it. It’s probably because he’s too busy texting other girls. Or he just doesn’t care about you enough to reply to you.
8. He lets you take the initiative all of the time.
What this means is that he’s not really invested in the relationship. He’s not willing to put in the work to try to take your relationship to the next level. He’s just content with letting you do all of the heavy lifting on behalf of the both of you.
9. Your instincts are telling you that he’s leading you on.
At the end of the day, you really have to be able to trust in your gut. Your subconscious might be telling you things that you don’t want to hear – but that you need to hear. And you can’t afford to ignore your instincts just because you are too stubborn.
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