It’s amazing how many couples make the mistake of not exactly prioritizing the value of respect in a relationship. It’s crazy to think that any kind of relationship in the world would ever survive when there is no mutual respect. It’s foolish to think that you can have someone fall in love with you when you don’t respect that person.
You aren’t really in love with a person unless you respect that person. And you can’t really have a person fall in love with you unless you manage to earn their respect.
You don’t have to love a person just because you respect them. But you certainly can’t have love in a relationship when there is no respect. Love can’t possibly exist when there is no respect. And that’s why it’s always important for you to really find a man who knows how to respect you; a man who knows your worth as a human being.
You need a man who understands that you are your own person; and that he should always be respectful of your dignity and your individuality. But how exactly do you know if you have a man who respects you? Well, you can choose to keep an eye out for the signs.
If you notice that your man is blatantly disrespectful towards you, then you need to call him out on it. If he doesn’t change, then it’s highly likely that his love for you isn’t real and you need to leave him immediately. And if a lot of the things that are listed here actually apply to him, then you need to learn how to appreciate him. Show him the gratitude that he deserves. And treat him with respect as well. Don’t take this gentleman for granted.
1. He really gives you his full undivided attention when you’re together.
He doesn’t look at his phone when you’re on dates. He doesn’t glance at other girls whenever you’re out together. He isn’t trying to eavesdrop on the conversations that other people are having. When you’re together, he really makes sure that you feel his attention on you.
2. He expresses a genuine interest in your thoughts and opinions.
He doesn’t make you feel like your thoughts and opinions are invalid. He never makes you feel like you aren’t safe to express yourself. He is always going to do his part to make sure that you know just how much he appreciates hearing your thoughts on things.
3. He doesn’t really make you feel like he’s controlling you.
He lets you live the life that you want to live. He doesn’t act as if he owns your time. He doesn’t act as if he has the right to control how you spend your days.
4. He allows himself to open up and become vulnerable with you.
He is never going to act fake with you. He is never going to be closed off or distant when it comes to you. He knows that you are making an effort with him; and he’s going to respect you by allowing himself to be vulnerable with you as well. He’s going to try and meet you halfway.
5. He stays upfront about his expectations for the relationship.
He always wants to make sure that you aren’t being kept in the dark about anything. He is always going to let his intentions and expectations be known to you. He never wants to make you feel like you have to constantly second-guess how he feels about you and your relationship.
6. He makes you feel included in his life.
He never makes you feel like you are a mere spectator in his life. He never makes it seem like he doesn’t want you to be an integral part of how he goes about his days. He always asks for your opinion on decisions he has to make. He includes you in the planning process for your relationship
7. He isn’t just concerned about his own personal needs being met in the relationship.
He always tries to make sure to give you pleasure and happiness however he can. He isn’t just concerned about his own personal needs. He makes sure to always meet your own standards and needs in the relationship as well.
8. He NEVER acts jealous.
He doesn’t really care that you devote your time or attention to other people or things every once in a while. He knows that he has no right to demand that he be the center of your universe. He knows that he can’t ask you to spend ALL of your time on him. He respects that you are allowed to have a life outside of the relationship.
9. He is never withholding of his admiration towards you.
He never plays games with you. He respects you enough to always be mature and upfront with you about his feelings. He is always going to make sure that you know just how much he admires you; just how much he appreciates having you in his life.