9 Signs You Love Someone More Than They Love You (One Sided Love)

It’s supposed to be mutual, not one-sided.

It probably goes without saying at this point that balance is absolutely essential in sustaining a strong, harmonious, and healthy relationship. You would never want to be in a relationship where there is a substantial imbalance in the way things are being conducted.

You always want to make sure that the dynamics of your relationship are running like a well-oiled machine. Should any imbalances or deficiencies be present in the dynamics of a relationship, it can potentially pose as a great threat to the stability and integrity of the romance.

And unfortunately, there are plenty of relationships that fall victim to this kind of phenomenon. There is just no way to salvage a relationship where this no equal exchange of effort, love, affection, and intimacy. Remember that a relationship is a two-way street and that both people involved should act as willing and active participants in making the relationship work.

The strength of a single person’s shoulders will not be able to bear the weight of the entire relationship. It must always be a shared effort between two individuals into ensuring the longevity and strength of a relationship.

Not to say that imbalances in a relationship are uncorrectable. A relationship can always be salvaged if issues are spotted and addressed early on. However, when left unchecked, imbalances within a relationship will eventually lead to a destructive end and you would never want that for yourself.

The trick is always in being able to realize that you are in a relationship with blatant imbalances, recognizing the problems, and making the necessary corrections to improve the state of things. But how do you know if there are imbalances in your relationship? Well fortunately for you, there are a few things that you could keep an eye out for. Use these clues to help you spot potential points for improvement in your love affair.

These are 9 signs that you love someone more than they love you.

1. They don’t really ask you too many personal questions.

A person who is madly in love with you would definitely be obsessed with learning as much as they could about you and your life. If they feign a sense of disinterest and indifference, then perhaps they don’t love you as much as you thought.

2. They never give you a feeling like you are a part of their future.

You never feel like you are a part of your partner’s future with the way that they make plans without you. They rarely ever include you in the planning process and you end up always feeling left out.

3. You are always the one who has to get the action rolling.

You are the one who always has to send the first text. You are the one who is always scrambling your brain to think of a conversation topic. You are the one who always has to ask your partner out on a date. All the effort comes from you.

4. You are rarely ever asked for your thoughts or opinions on things.

Essentially, what you have to say or think doesn’t really matter much to your partner. Your thoughts and musings are of little significance to the person you are supposedly madly in love with.

5. You find yourself competing for their time with their friends.


You should never have to feel like you are competing for your partner’s time in a relationship. You should allow your partner to live their own individual life, but they should also be carving valuable time out for you and for the relationship. If you feel like you are constantly shortchanged, then there’s an imbalance there that you need to correct.

6. They don’t think it necessary to reciprocate your romantic gestures.

You are the one who always whispers words of affection into their ears. You are always the one who is splurging on gifts. You are the one who plans surprise parties for them. But you never get the same kind of treatment.

7. You are never made to feel secure in your relationship.

You are never really made to feel like you have a place in your partner’s life. You take your relationship day by day because you aren’t really even sure that you have a secure place in it. You are constantly being given a reason to second-guess your worth in the relationship.

8. They don’t really concern themselves with your goals and plans.

If you were really with someone who loves you deeply, they would always want to make sure that they have a place in your future. But if they don’t really give a damn about your personal goals and plans, then they might not be so invested in your future as you once thought.

9. You feel burned out with having to always make them happy.

You always feel like it’s your job to generate the happiness in the relationship. But the sad part is, you’re the one who is becoming unhappy and the pressure of the relationship is really starting to get to you.

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Have you been in a one-sided relationship? Talk to me in the comments below

  1. I fear that I am in a one sided relationship but also fear that I am reading into things too much.
    I have been taken advantage of a few times I the past and I don’t know whether I am still haunted by them and its reflecting in this relationship too. Is it actually happening or is it all in my head?
    It wasn’t always like this. He used to make a lot of romantic gestures and then circumstances in his life changed.
    He keeps saying he loves me, but right now we have been forced in to a long distance relationship. It’s like he is using his new friends as a way of escape. That escape doesn’t include me! Am I doing the right thing or am I setting myself up for disaster?

  2. Yes. She is gotten used to just doing nothing. She never tells me she wants me or even gives me a kiss or i love you just for no reason. There is really no affection from her side anymore. If i bring these things up its well i just cant do anything for you. I just dont make you happy at all do i? I feel like i have a roomate. Ive sat down and had huge serious conversations about this and she cries and has excuses that i kinda buy, but it all goes back to normal within a few weeks. Ive been married since i was 22. And been w her for over 23 years. We used to be best friends. Everything went wrong about 5 years ago. Things just began to change and drift away. Ive lost my best friend, wy wife, in a way. And just look forward to spending the rest of my life with a mean, naggy, unloving, very lazy and unappreciative woman. I work my but off to pay everything and she just sits and watches TV and gains weight. She used to be so beautiful, and in a way i still see that, but she gave up. Just doesnt care. But i know she’s in there, or am i wasting my life on a woman that’s just gone now? Its so hard to think of leaving her, but i am sooo unhappy and tired of trying to fix it all the time.

  3. I have been with my husband for 32 years, on May8th 2021 .y husband fell in lust with the teenager across the street. He never approached her but he watched her every move and treated me like crap. She moved and he started watching porn at work (his Google searches always included teen/ girls porn) we struggled through this and he stopped his porn until Jan 2023, I saw his search history and asked him if he was watching porn again, he told me IT WASN’T HIM !!! Who else would it be? He tells me he loves me and doesn’t want to leave but he doesn’t shoe it with actions. I have come to believe that he never loved me, I have become his surrogate mother. I asked him what, other than saying the words and texting the words, how does he know I love him, his response was “you do things” my honesty and faithfulness the fact I respect him, he didn’t mention any of those things. So now I’m stuck in a one sided relationship because I’m now 61 yo and I have no where to go, a job that will get rid of me if my husband and I split up, he works at the same place and they need him more than me. He holds the insurance as I’m a part time employee…if we split, I lose everything. I’m so lost…

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