This one is for the ladies out there, I’ve done a lot of articles for the fellas recently and wanted to show the ladies some love. This is for all the ladies who’ve been dating someone for a long time now and want to take the next step. If you’ve finally reached that point, I personally congratulate you, it takes a lot of strength and patience to develop that sort of trust with someone that you want to finally tie the knot with them.
It isn’t easy to build and carry a strong and happy relationship, and it’s sheer bliss for those who actually manage to pull it off and hang on till the very end. These are going to be nine of the most common signs that tell you you’ve found the guy you’ll marry. Let’s begin.
1. He’s always just “there”
It’s incredibly hard to find someone who’s just always “there”. Now when I say “there”, I mean both emotionally and physically, more emotionally though. If a guy is always there during your toughest of battles and your happiest of moments, and he’s been in both of them equally and happily, then he definitely is the one you want to be with, even if it’s forever.
People are too shallow these days, they only care about themselves. A lot of people get into relationships because they want something out of them, I’ve seen such examples myself and I’ve always hated such people. But if someone is actually there for you, no matter what you throw at him, he’s here to stay and you know it!
2. He never gets tired of listening to you
I’m a guy and believe me, ladies, we know how much you love to talk, and we aren’t complaining either. Well, a lot of men actually do complain. So, if you’ve found a guy who actually listens to you with all of his attention diverted towards you, it means he truly loves you and is always interested in what you have to say no matter how long of a conversation it becomes, he doesn’t care about the time he only cares about your happiness.
This happens when the guy is patient and loving at the same time, not an easy combination to find but there are still a LOT of guys around who do that. understanding unspoken relationship expectations to avoid can further enhance the bond between partners. Open communication allows both individuals to express their desires and concerns without fear of judgment. In doing so, they create a stronger, more resilient connection that can weather life’s challenges together.
3. You find yourself being more and more dependent on him
Now when I say “dependent”, I don’t mean completely dependent, I mean dependent in an emotional way. It’s how you feel when you’re happy and the first thought you have is to share the happiness with him otherwise you feel like something’s missing. It’s when you feel sad and you just NEED to discuss your sadness with him because you think no one else understands you better when you’re sad.
It’s when you want his shoulder to cry on because no one else’s presence makes any difference to you. It’s the emotional dependency and this takes a lot of time to develop. If this happens with you, it means the guy you’re dating has proven himself time and again that he has always been there for you, TIE THE KNOT!
4. You don’t have to “put on a show” for him
This happens when you develop a certain comfort level with the guy you’re dating, you don’t feel like putting on makeup and dressing up because you know he’s not judging you by the way you look, you know that he loves you regardless. You can be yourself in front of him, your “weird side” is an open book to him and it doesn’t bother you anymore.
This happens when you share a certain level of trust and comfort with someone, that you let all of your shields down and you aren’t afraid to show him who you really are because you know he will love you regardless of everything.
5. You can call him your best friend
This is a continuation of my previous point. When you can call your guy your best friend, it means you will never have a dull moment with him. It means that you share such a special bond with him, that you can be silly and romantic at the same time and he will still love you the same. You guys do have your romantic dinners etc., but you also chill with each other like best friends.
When I and my girlfriend go on double dates, people really get weirded out by our chemistry. We don’t talk in each other’s ear or give each other looks while hanging out with other people, we just act natural. We laugh a lot, we talk really loud, we show people that there’s no need to develop a certain way of being with each other, you can be sporadic and still be very much in love with each other.
You get your first job offer, the first thing you do is call him to share your happiness with him. You don’t feel like your happiness is complete unless he’s a part of it, he’s the first person who gets to know, every time. It’s kind of a surreal feeling, to share your happiness with someone and actually feel the happiness grow tenfold in front of you. This happens when you actually get appreciated and when your happiness is actually shared. If you have this bond with him, he’s a keeper!
7. He doesn’t want you to change
Change is a big part of everyone’s lives, but not when it’s forced or expected. Change is only beautiful when it happens naturally, otherwise, it’s just filled with negativity. A man who truly loves you will NEVER ask you to change unless it’s for your own good (like leaving a bad habit).
He loves you for your individuality, for the person you are, and not the person you could be or should be. If a man completely accepts you in every form, he’s one to keep.
8. You fight, but you also love
Every couple fights. Those celebrity couples you see on TV, fight. That couple who’s extremely happy all the time, they fight too. It’s in our nature to disagree; it’s nothing unusual. Love is when you know when to stop when you know what to say and how not to hurt the person you love, with your words and actions, love it to not forget your feelings no matter how angry or upset you are.
Don’t get me wrong, my girlfriend and I have our fair share of fights, but we always end up making each other happy in the end; we always know when to stop. Finding a guy who can put you above his anger is hard, but not impossible.
Last but definitely not least, you two share the same idea of romance. Now this one is THE most important one of all because it involves intimacy and comfort at the same time. Every one of us has a different idea when it comes to being romantic, the hard part is finding someone who can match it.
For instance, my ideal romance is when I can just laugh and smile with my girlfriend, my idea of romance is to just spend time with her, it is different for everyone. So ladies, if you’ve found a guy who shares this with you, please don’t let him go.
Your turn, ladies
Have you found your Mr. Right? Did I miss something on the list? Talk to me in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!
Then his ex walks back and every thing goes down the drain flushed with anger and resentment.
Same happened to me just recently. He had been divorced fir 20 some years. Broke my damn heart. Never expected it.
Must pray to Father GOD to guide you both on the situatioñ. Then welcome for positive result. Assure yourself the happy time to happen at the right time. Remain positive for Love & happiness.
Faith n GOD is True Love waits..
Hello,
After reading your 9 signs, I have to say at 53 years old I have found this man. He is amazing! He does all these things. He works a lot, but our time together is awesome we laugh so hard all the time together. I’ve never met another like him!
I had all of that in my heart for Teresa and gave it to her openly, freely, everyday and in everyway possible at every chance I had, a woman that I love so dearly, but she tore my heart in two, starting up with a man right in front of my eyes, even after telling me she never do something like that, knowing how my heart felt about her, knowing I would spend the rest of my life with her, I treated her like the queen that she was to me and my heart. I read all of those nine rules, I passed the test many times over, I’m sorry she and I both lost out it was a great friendship for 17 years I’ve known her for 52. All the things I just read in your article were so very true about our relationship many times over in many different ways it was the most incredible thing I’ve ever felt in my heart but then it got torn 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
I think the article was pretty accurate. I will add that giving a relationship a lot of time to really get to know someone and also living with them is very important before marrying a person I think— to really get to know a person before marriage. I’ve done a lot of dating— and I’m sure glad I took my time getting to know a person. A lot of people put on their best self and are flooded with the honeymoon infatuation phase at the beginning of a relationship. In my experience it really pays off to wait until the honeymoon phase wears off some– and you really know that person before marrying them. Good article overall 😊!
I thought I had found my Mr Right. We had been dating over 2 yrs before we decided to combine our worldly possessions, and see if wecompatible. compatable. We planned a little intimate wedding for spring. Right before this past spring, he says we I find that we need to postpone our wedding until we can better afford a bit 8f a honeymoon. Understandable, since we’re both retired & try to live on a tight budget. Then I find out that he’s been talking on the phone, and texting with his Ex! This is very stressful for me, because my last Mr Wonderful, ended up going back to his Ex, and moving back in with her… 6 months after we had gotten married! So I know first hand, that the “Getting Married”, doesn’t always mean “Forever After” to some guys in this world! NOW, I can’t help but wonder if this Exe’s reconnection with him, may be the reason he has suggested this postponement? Maybe he’s wondering, that if he gives her a little more time…. She may want to pick it back up where they left off! He knows what kind of stress this has caused me, but he doesn’t seem to be able to see it the same way that I do, because he’s not seeing her at all, and he says there’s no way they could ever get back together. I personally believe that the X is there for a reason, and IF they have no children together to have to coparent, there is absolutely NO reason for them NOT to block ALL contact with the Ex, and remove her from his contacts list! Especially since I feel so strong against this. I feel like I was disrespected when he continued with the texting, even I let him know that I didn’t feel comfortable with him calling her, taking her calls, or continuing to have conversations with her on the phone. Am I wrong to feel this way? Am I wrong to feel like she is deliberately trying to reconnect with him, to cause problems for between us? Part of me thinks she wanted to stop his getting married again, another part of me wants to call her out, but there is still a part of me that wants to fight for what he and I have found with each other! And IF I fight for what is Ours, Will I end up with another husband that will eventually end up going back to his Ex!?! 🤔 Too much room for me to end up with a broken heart again! 💔
I have found this guy but we have a few things that are preventing us from being together. He is still married getting the divorce to the final stages. Myself still stuck in a emotional abusive relationship that I don’t want to drag in to a new relationship with this wonderful man. But I don’t want to lose him while I’m working on my issues. But again he is so down to earth I’m sure he will be there through tit all
I’ve been with this man for a year and half, and when I invite him to any function he wants to know who and where we will be going. He has a daughter in our area and I am yet to meet her.