1. Work on your conversation skills.
Remember that in any kind of relationship, communication is always going to be key. And you can’t communicate well if you aren’t a good conversationalist. So make sure that you are presenting yourself as a person of depth. Be as interesting as possible. And in return, show some interest in her. Make your curiosities evident. Show her that you know how to initiate a conversation; and more importantly, that you’re capable of carrying a conversation. Let her know that you aren’t afraid of expressing yourself; and that you are also a great listener.
2. Don’t let your nerves get to you.
Sometimes, you can put too much pressure on yourself to the point that it becomes self-destructive. Yes, it’s okay to be anxious and nervous about being with a girl that you like. But you can’t let that pressure crush you. You have to be able to let your confidence shine through. You have to be able to show great control over your nerves.
3. Be sure to compliment her.
And don’t just tell her that she’s pretty. Yes, that’s great. But you shouldn’t be afraid to go deeper than that. Show her that you have great attention to detail. Show her that you are able to really notice the things about her that you find most attractive. This is going to make her feel more secure about letting herself be vulnerable with you. This is going to make her trust you even more.
4. Be as consistent as possible.
ALWAYS BE CONSISTENT. Don’t be a flaker. This is essential especially in the early aspects of the relationship. Don’t be hot and cold with her. You should show her that she can always rely on you to be consistent; that she can always count on you to be there for her.
5. Don’t be so serious all of the time.
Be lighthearted. Remember that love is a lot like life – it may be hard, but it’s definitely not something that you should be taking so seriously. Love isn’t a walk in the park, that’s for sure. But if you’re not having fun in your love, then what’s the point, right? Always show her that you are capable of having a light heart and mind. Show her that you are a guy she can always have a good time with because of your positivity and your optimism. Show her how happy she could be in a life of love with you.
6. Be spontaneous and adaptable.
Show her a good time. Yes, it’s always nice to be stable and consistent. But sometimes, with stability, you can be very predictable. And predictability can be boring. And you don’t want to be so boring early on in a relationship. There is a lot of room for stability and predictability when you get really deep in the relationship. But for now, things should always be exciting and exhilarating all of the time. You always need to make sure that you are presenting yourself as a guy she can always have fun with.
7. Always be mindful of her feelings and emotions.
Never act so selfishly to the point that you don’t become mindful of her feelings and emotions. Remember, you want to get her to fall in love with you – and love is an emotion. And if you blind yourself to how she’s feeling, then it’s likely that you are doing things wrong. You always need to act with sensitivity. You need to have a developed sense of self-awareness. You need to now how she perceives you as a person. And you need to make sure that you don’t do or say anything that might turn her off to the idea of being with you.
8. Make an effort to be attractive towards her.
You should always be making an effort to get her to become attracted to you. You have to be pulling out all of the stops. And focus on the general stuff. Remember that it’s not all just about how you look. Yes, you should be putting an effort into dressing well and making sure that you’re always well-groomed. You should always practice proper hygiene; but you can also go deeper than that. Be an attractive man who is smart, kind, and gentlemanly. Be respectful and caring.
9. Build a life for yourself that you can also be in love with.
When you live a life for yourself that you can fall in love with, then you are also unconsciously giving her the permission to do the same. You are showing her the many lovable aspects of your character and personality. When you fall in love with your own life, you make it so much easier for her to fall in love with you as well. That isn’t to say that she would never fall in love with you if you don’t love yourself; it’s just more likely that she would.