It can be very therapeutic and relaxing to just sit and chat with your friends about various aspects of your relationship. There are just some things that you should never be so willing to let out beyond the confines of your own relationship.
When you are in a real loving and committed relationship with someone, you must always be able to trust one another with everything – and that includes keeping he private aspects of your relationship private. If you are going to end up breaking that trust, then you should know that it’s going to be infinitely difficult trying to regain it.
You would never want to have to put yourself in a position wherein you are working to regain your partner’s trust. That’s not going to be a fun time for you.
Yes, you will have an impulse to tell your friends about the various scoops surrounding your relationship. And that’s okay. No one is going to judge you for wanting to spill the beans sometimes.
Maybe you just want to brag about how great of a relationship you have. Maybe you are just frustrated with your partner and you’re looking for an outlet to vent. But still, you have to be able to police yourself. You need to be in control of everything that you reveal to other people.
You have to know which aspects of your relationship are okay to talk to others about and which parts are not. You don’t want to be airing your relationship’s dirty laundry out into the open.
Your partner might not be so happy about you doing so and that could cause some irreparable damage to your relationship. When in doubt about what you shouldn’t be talking to your friends about, just refer to this list.
1. Money matters.
You shouldn’t be so liberal when talking about financial matters to your friends outside of your relationship. When you and your partner are going through a rough patch financially, you need to be able to talk it out together.
You need to discuss what you need to do as a couple before you open up to the public.
2. The fact that your partner isn’t so fond of a particular friend.
Hey, your partner is only human. There are certain people that they’re going to meet and not be particularly fond of. And that’s okay. However, you wouldn’t want to be broadcasting that knowledge to the public. You don’t your friends to think that your partner is a total snob or something.
3. Terrible gifts.
If your partner gives you a gift that you’re not entirely pleased with. Just keep it to yourself. Remember that gifts are material items. And it’s really the thought that goes into a gift that counts. Don’t be so quick to publicly shame your partner for their poor gift-giving skills.
4. Fights and disagreements.
You and your partner aren’t always going to see eye to eye on everything. And that’s okay. It’s very much normal to have fights and disagreements in relationships. However, it’s important that you keep these fights within your relationship. You don’t want to be broadcasting your debates out to the world.
5. Bedroom antics.
Physical intimacy is definitely something that should ALWAYS be kept intimate. Remember that sex is a journey of discovery that the two of you embark on as partners. And it’s a journey that you should only keep to yourselves. The world doesn’t need to know what you’re doing in the bedroom.
6. Your partner’s personal secrets.
Your partner trusts you enough to actually reveal secrets to you. You shouldn’t be so willing to betray that trust by broadcasting these secrets out into the open. Respect your partner enough to know that their secrets are kept safe and secure with you. You never want them to think that you’re a person they should stay wary of trusting.
7. Your partner’s insecurities.
Your partner is going to have some very deep and personal insecurities. We all do. And they might not be so comfortable with discussing these insecurities to the public. That’s why you always have to be sensitive of their feelings. Make sure that you don’t reveal anything about them that they’re not ready to reveal themselves.
We all have our quirks. Don’t be so quick to throw your partner under the bus when it comes to their little quirks and oddities. The only reason you know about them is that your partner feels comfortable enough to be their true genuinely weird selves whenever they’re around you.
9. Your text messages.
Text messages are still considered conversations. And you shouldn’t really be airing out these private conversations to the world. It destroys the intimacy that you have within your relationship. You don’t want your partner to think that every single conversation that you have is going to be open to everyone.