Keep yourself guarded. That is one of the most important rules that you will have to keep in mind when you are dating. You never want to be allowing yourself to just recklessly fall in love with someone. You always want to make sure that you are keeping yourself protected. You don’t want to end up putting yourself in a position where you get hurt.
Yes, to a certain extent, you are going to want to make yourself vulnerable to a guy. You are going to want him to actually trust you. And you can’t expect to do that if you just keep your walls up all the time. You are going to want to let him in as well. You have to make him feel welcome. You have to make him feel like you are willing to open up to him.
But you can’t be so willing to just give all of yourself right away. You have to make sure that you are actually giving yourself to the right person. You want to make sure that you are only giving your trust to a man who is actually worth it; a man who wouldn’t betray you.
That’s why if you notice that a man is performing a few of the things that are listed in this article, you should stay very wary. These are a few red flags that shouldn’t go unnoticed. You should always stay vigilant. If he has no problem with doing a lot of the things listed on here, then that is a good sign that he is prone to eventually break your heart.
1. He refuses to define the relationship.
He doesn’t want to put a label to whatever the two of you have because that will bring about a sense of finality to everything. And he knows that he isn’t sure about being with you for the long-term just yet. He knows that he shouldn’t be so eager to define what you two have.
2. He is reluctant to meet your family.
He doesn’t want to meet the important people in your life because, at the back of his mind, you’re not all that important to him just yet. He doesn’t really see a future with you and that’s why he doesn’t want to immerse himself in your social circle either.
3. He doesn’t make plans with you.
He doesn’t really make any efforts to plan out the relationship with you. He is reluctant to talk about the future. He doesn’t like to talk about what is in store for both of you. And that’s bad. It means that he isn’t forward-thinking with this relationship at all.
4. He tells you that he’s not ready to commit.
He just flat out tells you that he isn’t ready to commit to a relationship just yet. And while that might very well be true, it’s not good. It’s obvious that you’re just not the girl he would be willing to really sink his teeth into and that’s why he refuses to commit.
5. He stays in touch with his exes.
It’s normal for two people to still stay civil after a breakup. But you know that it’s a serious red flag when two exes still remain friends. There might be some lingering drama and feelings there that you don’t want to end up being a part of.
He really keeps a close guard of his cellphone. He might be up to some sketchy stuff with his phone and he doesn’t want you to know about it. He wants to make sure that you don’t find out about stuff that he’s desperately trying to hide from you.
7. He doesn’t open up about himself.
He doesn’t really open up to you about himself. He doesn’t talk to you about his life all that much. He refuses to go into detail about the kind of guy he is. He is exhibiting sketchy behavior. And he makes it so hard for you to try to get to know him better.
8. He doesn’t show you off on social media.
It’s not a real problem if he just isn’t really into social media so much. But you know that it’s a serious problem if he refuses to acknowledge your presence on that platform. It might be a sign that he’s still trying to make himself available to all other people. He still tries to keep his options open.
9. He only shows up whenever convenient.
He only ever really shows up when it’s convenient for him to do so. He doesn’t really try to move his schedule around to accommodate you into his life. He is only there whenever he doesn’t have anything else better to do. He doesn’t make you a priority in any capacity.