You’ve really got to learn to put your foot down when you’re in a relationship. Just because you are supposedly falling in love with a guy doesn’t mean that you have to be tolerating his terrible behavior. In a relationship, there should always be room for growth and criticism. You should always be able to tell your man that you’re unhappy with how he’s treating you. You shouldn’t have to be sucking things up and faking a smile just because you’re too afraid to contradict or offend him. Sure, there are some things that you need to tolerate; like certain harmless quirks. You always need to accept him for who he is if you’re going to love him.
However, you also need to be able to draw that line. There are some things that your man does which are downright intolerable; that are downright disgusting. You shouldn’t have to keep playing his game if you’re not comfortable. You still have full ownership of who you are and you always deserve to be treated with dignity; especially when you’re in a relationship. You need a man who shouldn’t do any of the following things to you:
1. Hurl any insults your way (whether done in your presence or behind your back).
He should NEVER be insulting you. You are in a relationship together and he should be your staunchest defender. He should never be making you feel bad with his words. He should never be painting you in a bad light. You shouldn’t have to endure rough talk from him that assaults your character.
2. Make you the butt of the joke in front of others.
It’s always nice whenever you are able to share a sense of humor in your relationship. That would mean that you and your partner would share a life full of laughs and smiles. But it’s a different story when you start becoming the butt of the joke all of the time. He makes fun of you to make himself laugh and to make you feel bad in the process. That’s something that you shouldn’t have to tolerate in a relationship.
3. Dominate you in a physical and emotional form.
Male domination is very much common in a lot of relationships; and it can take its shape in various forms as well. You have to make sure that you aren’t in a relationship with a man who is constantly pushing you to do things that you’re not comfortable with doing. He shouldn’t be doing anything that might harm you in either a physical or emotional manner. He shouldn’t be demonstrating his power over you when you’re in a relationship together. He should always be gentle with you; he should always be treating you with love and care.
4. Invalidate your feelings as something false or over-the-top.
You shouldn’t have to put up with a guy who doesn’t listen to you or pay attention to you. He shouldn’t be acting as if your words and thoughts have no merit. He should respect you enough to always be willing to hear whatever you have to say. He shouldn’t be acting as your opinions don’t matter. He shouldn’t be treating your feelings as if they’re invalid.
5. Force you into doing sexual favors.
You should NEVER be forced into doing ANYTHING that you’re not comfortable with on a sexual level. If you don’t want to have sex with him, then he shouldn’t be imposing that on you. If there are certain things that you aren’t willing to try in the bedroom, he shouldn’t be compelling you to do them.
6. Flirt with other girls in front of you.
He should NEVER be flirting with other girls when you’re in a supposed committed relationship with one another. That’s something that you’re never going to have to tolerate. That’s something that you really shouldn’t be putting up with. He has no business flirting with other girls.
7. Dictate how you’re supposed to live your life.
He should never get to fully control you. He should never get to choose how you should live your life. You are your own person and you are perfectly capable of making your own choices. You don’t always have to let him call the shots; not especially on decisions that directly concern your life.
8. Rely on you for emotional and financial support.
To a certain extent, you should always be willing to support your man. That’s the essence of being in a relationship anyway. But you always need to be able to draw that line. If you have a man who turns to you for money all of the time, then you’re in a relationship with a bum. If you are with a guy who is practically a snowflake; someone who crumbles so easily, then you’re not going to be able to withstand the troubles in your relationship.