Here’s the obvious truth: relationships are really complicated and no one should be taking them for granted. There’s just no circumventing the truth with this case. It’s always so awkward having to navigate your way through your feelings for another person. And a lot of times, it’s not always going to turn out the way that you want it to be. You’re not always going to have your expectations met; and that’s when you’re going to have to learn to adjust.
Women tend to try a lot in relationships. They really put so much effort into trying to make things work with the men that they like. They care so much and they let their emotions get the best of them sometimes. However, guys don’t always go at the same pace. Men aren’t always going to be the most appreciative of women’s efforts. Guys have a tendency to be insensitive. Men tend to be shameless. And a lot of times, men have a tendency to be really oblivious to women’s feelings. If you’re a guy reading this, then you need to take it easy on your girl. Here are a few things that are going to upset her about you.
1. You take without giving.
Don’t be a total taker. You have to remember that it takes a healthy balance of giving and taking for a relationship to really work. There always has to be an equal exchange. You need to be able to balance yourselves. You can’t be so selfish to the point that you let her do all of the giving.
2. You give mixed signals.
You aren’t really consistent with her; and you make it so difficult for her to navigate her feelings. You make it so hard for her to figure out what she’s going to do with you. You don’t give her enough effort to actually be sure about opening herself up to you. You’re just too hot and cold when you’re with her. And the lack of consistency and stability scares her.
3. You don’t go straight to the point.
You have a tendency to beat around the bush with her. You aren’t always clear about how you feel with her. And it frightens the heck out of her. She already has so many feelings for you; but she isn’t even sure if her feelings are going to be reciprocated by you. And she hates how afraid you make her feel to open up.
4. You don’t tell the truth.
You lie to her. You aren’t always honest with her. You might think that it’s harmless when you tell these little lies that don’t carry much weight. But it really frustrates her. It makes her feel like you don’t respect her enough to make her feel like she is deserving of the truth. You don’t make her feel safe with what you’re telling her. She doesn’t feel like she can trust you and she hates you for it.
5. You only say what you think she wants to hear.
Sometimes, she’s going to want you to be real with her even when you know that it’s going to hurt her. She isn’t getting into a relationship with someone who is only going to tell her what she wants to hear. She wants to be told what she NEEDS to hear by someone she can genuinely trust. And you just don’t give her that kind of vibe.
6. You aren’t always going to be monogamous.
Men just have this weirdly inherent problem with being monogamous. She wants so desperately to be exclusive with you; but then you never give her the feeling that you’re going to commit and stay loyal with you. You don’t give her a sense of security about being in a relationship with you.
7. You put girls on a leash.
You lead her on. You give her just enough to make her feel like you’re interested. But then she also finds out that you’re still trying to keep your options open. She doesn’t want to have to be just another option to you. She hates that she isn’t an actual priority to you.
8. You don’t take the initiative to make plans.
She feels like she has to carry the weight of the relationship. She is the one who always has to make plans. She is the one who is always trying to keep the relationship afloat. But then you don’t seem so willing to give the same kind of effort.
9. You confuse her about her feelings.
This one, she might secretly like. In fact, all girls want to have to go through this kind of confusion at some point in their lives. She is going to want to have her feelings ruffled up by a special boy. But you have to be careful with her. You have to be sensitive with her. When you make her consider the idea of opening up to you, try your best to not upset her.