When I was single, I didn’t sulk. I traveled, a lot!
All too often, we get so caught up with obsessing over the fact that we’re still single. We unhealthily pour all of our energy into those kinds of thoughts; as if the fact that we’re not in a relationship is the only thing that defines us in life. It isn’t. And it shouldn’t be. You have to know that there is a life worth living beyond a romantic partnership. There is a world out there that is waiting to be explored. There are experiences out there that are just waiting to be had.
And there is really very little time to waste. You can’t afford to be idle just because you’re single. There are plenty of other things that you should be investing your time and energy into. You can find meaning in life without having to fall in love with someone. And you never know, once you do manage to embrace the various opportunities that this life has to offer, love is going to unexpectedly walk into your life. So don’t worry that you’re not in a relationship just yet. Take some time to explore these other things.
1. Build a strong and solid social network.
Just because you aren’t in a romantic relationship doesn’t mean that you should have a terrible social life. Go ahead and build your network. Go out and meet new people. Spend time with the friends that you already have and ask them to introduce you to new friends as well. Strike up a conversation with people at the gym or the coffee house that you frequent.
2. Focus on finding and thriving in a career that you love.
Really devote all of your time and your energy into your professional life. When you get into a relationship with someone, you aren’t going to have as much time and freedom for yourself. So make the most out of all the extra time that you have now as a single person. Really do whatever you can to find success in your career. Don’t be afraid to take a few calculated risks and work hard to climb up your career ladder.
3. Establish intrinsic happiness for yourself.
Find happiness in yourself and you will never not be happy for the rest of your life. You can’t have your happiness depend on external sources. You have to be able to look inside yourself for happiness – and once you do that, you make your own life a whole lot better and brighter.
4. Build a strong sense of self-worth.
You need to be able to see your sense of self-worth. Sometimes, if you’ve been single for too long, your insecurities might be surfacing. So it’s important for you to remind yourself that your sense of self-fulfillment and worth shouldn’t be tied to your relationship status. You should be able to be proud of who you are regardless of whether you’re in a relationship or not.
5. Set meaningful short-term and long-term goals for yourself.
Goals are important. They give you something to strive towards. They give you a sense of purpose. Goals give you direction and structure in life. So set some goals for yourself – both big and small. Just always make sure that your goals are actually able to add some definite value to your life so that you don’t end up just wasting your time on senseless and meaningless endeavors.
6. Maintain good physical, mental, and emotional health.
Focus on your body; the physical, mental, and emotional aspects of it. You can’t disregard your health. Take some time to hit the gym to strengthen your physical body. Eat healthier. Read more books and immerse yourself in some cultural endeavors for your mental health. Spend time doing the things that you love for your emotional health.
7. Engage in new hobbies and explore new places.
The best way to grow and learn is to deliberately put yourself outside of your comfort zone. Engage in the things that are unfamiliar to you. Really take the time to learn new skills and embrace new perspectives. It’s part of living a holistic and well-rounded life.
8. Build stronger bonds with your family.
At the end of the day, you should always be able to have your family to fall back on. So make sure that you never take those familial bonds and relationships for granted. You have to always make sure that you treasure those relationships the best way that you can.
9. Learn how to be more independent.
There are very few things in this world that are more attractive than someone who is independent and strong. And you know that you are never going to find success in love and relationships anyway if you aren’t an independent person. It takes two strong and independent individuals to make a relationship work. So just focus on building yourself for the meantime. Learn to fend for yourself. And when you’re ready, love will come for you. So just stay tight.
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