It’s time to fix things and stop suffering!

You are definitely not alone in this. Luck in love is a rare commodity, and most people spend entire lifetimes trying to find the love that they think they deserve. It takes a lot of hits and misses for people to really understand what they want out of love and their relationships. A lot of times, people will think that they’re in healthy and fully functional romantic relationships only to have them blow up in their faces at any given moment. It can be very difficult for a lot of people to find security in their dating life. Maybe the timing is just never right. Maybe some things just don’t click. You just have to realize that relationships require a lot of work and dedication. You need to understand that you aren’t entitled to success in love. You have to work hard for the kind of love that you want.

That’s why whenever you find that your dating life is a complete wreck, you have to consider the possibility that you are the one who is to blame. Maybe there are facets of your personality that just make you impossible to be with. Maybe you have to make a few character adjustments in order for another person to fully accommodate you in life. If you think that you are experiencing a spell of bad luck in your romantic life, here are a few things you can do to help pick yourself up.

1. Learn to accept the fact that love is a difficult social enterprise.

Love is always going to be in a butt. Anyone who says that love is easy is telling a lie. Love is never easy. Love never comes as naturally as how other people make it seem. You always have to have the perfect conditions set in order for love to find success. Even all of the good intentions and hard work in the world wouldn’t be enough to compensate for bad timing in romance.

2. Be more forgiving of yourself.

Stop beating yourself up over the fact that you can’t find success in love. It happens to a lot of people. You aren’t necessarily to blame for everything. Pick yourself up. Hold your chin high. Face life with a smile and just keep pushing forward.

3. Try to build your self-esteem.

It would be extremely difficult for you to find people who would want to be with you if you don’t even believe in yourself. In love and in life, confidence is a very important attribute. You have to be able to believe in yourself. You have to be able to love yourself if you want other people to love you as well.


4. Examine the negative trends that are present in your dating exploits.

You’ve been around the block a few times, but nothing ever seems to work out. This is where you have to be introspective and reflective. You have to be able to analyze the wrong aspects of the relationships you’ve been in. Try to see where you went wrong and make sure to never commit these mistakes again.

5. Remember to take better care of yourself.

If you aren’t able to take care of yourself, how could you expect anyone to think that you could take care of them in a relationship? Remember that it takes two completely mature individuals to make up a successful relationship. You have to learn how to take care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially as well before you can start becoming responsible for another person.

6. How happy is your career making you?

A lot of times, having a dysfunctional career can be a great barrier in having a successful relationship with another person. Stress from work can often lead to stress in the personal life as well. A lot of people would be surprised how having a sound and secure career can carry over into other aspects of life.

7. Reconsider the kinds of people you choose to surround yourself with.

You are a reflection of the kind of people that you choose to surround yourself with. If you are always hanging around a bad crowd, then you are most likely only going to attract bad people. You have to remember that you want to project an image of goodness and positivity to the people you are interested in being with. That means having a solid social circle of inspired and hardworking individuals around you.


8. Find out what you really want out of relationships.

Sometimes, relationships are doomed because the people who go into them set really vague expectations. You have to know what you want the most out of the relationships that you’re in in order for you to find success. If you want the kind of relationship wherein the both of you are never apart, then it would be best for you to avoid free and independent people who value their solitude.

9. Take things slow and let relationships run their natural course.

Don’t force anything. Yes, you should work hard in relationships, but you can’t rush into it. You have to be able to gauge situations properly. You have to practice empathy and compassion with your partner. 

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