I know it’s hard, but you’ll get there.
You’re practically crying yourself to sleep every night. The tears fall recklessly from your eyes and you can’t even remember the last time you went to bed with a dry pillow. And all of these tears are a result of a single individual a former love that you can’t seem to get over just yet.
Breakups are very difficult. And understandably so. When you break up with a person who you were so deeply in love with, it will be as if you lose a huge chunk of who you are as a person. When you get into a relationship with someone, you invest a huge part of yourself into that relationship. And so when you have to let that relationship go, you also have to let go of the parts of yourself that you chose to put into it. And to add on to that, you also have to let go of your partner the person who was once the biggest part of your life. You have to let go of all the dreams and hopes that came with this person. You have to be able to let go of all of your expectations because you’re practically left with nothing at this point.
It’s a genuine loss and you shouldn’t have to be guilty about feeling terrible. No one gets to judge you for how you feel because you are the only one who understands your full experience. No one has the right to just tell you to move on and get over it because only you get to decide when you’re ready to do so. If breakups were so easy to move on from, then not so many people in this world would be left broken and in despair.
It can even get really hard to just let everything sink in when it first happens. As is popularly known, denial is often the first stage of grief that people go through. You might have thought that the breakup wasn’t real or that it wasn’t permanent. But then as time started to pass you by, reality started to sink in. You slowly started to accept the idea that maybe things really are over after all. And once that happens, the pain and the grief will ram you like a truck. But that’s not a bad thing. You should never regret having loved and lost. It’s always a learning experience. Love is always a valuable life lesson and experience that is worth taking the risk for.
Once you do learn to accept the unfortunate demise of your relationship, you will quickly try your best to make sense of everything that is happening around you. You will want to rationalize everything to the best of your abilities as a way to distract yourself from the feelings and the emotions that you have yet to confront. You will nitpick and you will pore ever every single aspect of the relationship. You will try to think about all the weak points of the romance and you will think about how you could have possibly made things better to prevent you from getting to where you are now. You will judge yourself and you will judge your relationship. And you will do so ruthlessly.
This is where things get really tricky. You can’t allow yourself to engage in any destructive thoughts or toxic behavior. You have to maintain as positive an outlook as possible no matter how difficult it may be for you to do so. Here are 9 healthy things that you need to keep in mind to help you through your breakup.
1.tThe fact that your relationship ended doesn’t mean that you are any less of a person than anyone else. It just so happens that you weren’t compatible with one another and it showed in how things concluded for the both of you.
2.tChoose to see this breakup as an opportunity for you to restart your life. Let go of all the negative and toxic energy that you have accumulated to this point and start anew.
3.tThere’s no point in crying over spilled milk. Yes, it’s good to treat this unfortunate tragedy as a learning experience. But don’t let it deprive you from living in the present and looking towards the future.
4.tYour desire to love will be what heals all of your current wounds. Don’t let this breakup taint your view of love or romance.
5.tDon’t fight whatever sadness that may come to your heart. Allow yourself to be human and just feel the things that you are meant to feel. Confront your emotions as they make themselves present in your life.
6.tA heartbreak is a potential trigger for you to gain a more valuable perspective on life.
7.tYour temporary pain at this moment is what is going to lead to you becoming a stronger individual.
8.tThere is a better plan out there for you to pursue. Take this as an opportunity for you to walk the path that you have always meant to be walking on.
9.tTime heals all wounds eventually.
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