Not all relationships are going to be immune to rough patches. In fact, a vast majority of relationships go through substantial rough patches. There are even some couples who go through multiple rough patches within the span of their entire relationship. And that’s all normal. Relationships are tough. Love isn’t always as easy as you would want it to be; and that’s the truth. After all, we always gain a better appreciation for the things that we work hard for in live; and love is one of those things. The best things in life never come easily; and love is always going to be the best thing we could possibly every experience with another person.
So if you happen to find yourself in a rough patch with your partner, there’s no need to fret just yet. You don’t have to panic. It’s only ever really a problem when you don’t have a solution. And there is always going to be a solution so as long as you’re willing to commit yourself to making the relationship work. You need to understand that love is going to require substantial patience, dedication, and commitment on your part. You have to show that you’re up for the challenge of enduring your rough patch; and doing whatever it takes to fix things between the two of you.
It’s normal that the fire in your relationship has died down. But just because it’s normal doesn’t mean that you have to live with it. You still have to be doing everything in your power to bring that fire back. And sometimes, that all starts with simple communication. There’s a reason why everyone always says that communication is so important in a relationship – it’s the truth. It’s the one way that you and your partner can really connect with one another; to get closer to each other. You always need to have solid open and honest communication if you want to maintain a healthy relationship.
And if you’re feeling lost; if you’re not exactly the best communicator, then this is the article for you. You can use this as a guide to help you get things right with your partner.
1. What do you need me to do for you right now?
You need to ask your partner what you need to do to make things better. The reason that your relationship has turned sour is because somewhere along the line, you failed to meet each other’s needs. And you need to know what you can do to correct that.
2. How can I make your life easier?
Always show your partner that you’re in it for the right reasons; that you’re not just in it for yourself. You have to show your partner that you are always thinking of them; that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make them happy.
3. I’m sorry.
Show some humility. Prove to your partner that you’re acknowledging your own faults and shortcomings; and that you’re always going to be willing to swallow your pride and learn from your mistakes all for the sake of the relationship.
4. Thank you.
Gratitude really goes a long way in a relationship. Maybe the reason why your partner hasn’t been putting much effort anymore is because their efforts are often left invalidated or unrecognized. Always try to make each other feel valued and appreciated.
5. I’m very proud of you.
Confidence boosters. They help. Give your partner the energy and motivation to pursue life with zeal and passion. Reassure them that you are proud of who they are and that you believe that they are capable of doing so much more.
6. I love you.
This is relationship 101. You should always be telling your partner just how much you love them. Remember that you can never say these three words enough – and when you do say it, make sure you mean it.
7. I understand that you’re like this, but this is what I need from you.
Be honest and upfront about all your personal needs as well. But always make sure to be sensitive in your delivery. Don’t be too demanding and bratty. Be open but be genuine as well. Reveal who you really are and how you truly feel.
8. I promise I’m always going to stay committed.
Be real with your partner. Be open about the fact that you have some substantial problems that the two of you are going to need to face. But also let your partner know that you’re going to commit to fixing things. Reassure your partner of your dedication to your relationship.
9. I respect you.
And don’t just tell your partner that you respect them, show it. Prove it to them. Tell them you see them as a genuine equal; and that you’re both partners for life.