Your subconscious may be warning you.
It’s perfectly possible for us to fall in love with people who are downright bad for us. It’s actually a fairly common phenomenon. It happens way too often especially to people who tend to have a weak heart and are too afraid to stand up for themselves.
And just because someone manages to give you butterflies in your tummy doesn’t automatically mean that they’re going to be good for you. Remember that our hearts can often betray us by leading us into situations that may turn out bad for us in the long run.
That’s why we need to be able to keep our emotions in check we have to be able to balance our feelings with a healthy dose of objectivity and rationality. We can’t always let our feelings get the best of us because we risk opening ourselves up to severe heartache and disappointment if we do so.
When we get physically attracted to a person, and we somehow establish some kind of tangible rapport with them, we risk blinding ourselves from the unfortunate realities of the situation. Of course, there are some good parts, hence, we get attracted to them in the first place. But we can’t risk closing our eyes to the bad parts of a person’s character and the negative impact they can have on our lives.
Your subconscious is always going to be fully aware of the situation but you’re just choosing to block all of these details and information out of your conscious system. You need to be able to really access your subconscious. You need to be paying attention to your instincts because they are there to look out for you and make sure that you don’t get hurt.
Love is irrational. Love is all about taking a risk even when the stakes are really high. But that doesn’t mean that you should completely turn off all sense of logic for the sake of love. You still need to be able to look after yourself and act in a rational manner. There’s no need for you to put yourself through unnecessary emotional stress for the chance of being loved.
If you learn to pay close attention to the signs that your own psychology and body are exhibiting, then you can get a better idea of how you really feel about the situation. Here are 9 things you do subconsciously when you know that your partner is bad for you:
1. You lose a lot of your confidence and self-assuredness whenever you’re together.
This is your subconscious telling you that your partner never does anything to boost your morale. Your partner doesn’t put any effort into making you feel your actual worth in the relationship.
2. You constantly feel insecure in the relationship.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s normal to have a few insecurities. But your partner should always be doing their part in trying to appease those insecurities in the best way possible.
3. You are always feeling like you need constant validation from your partner.
You tie your entire sense of self-worth to your partner’s perception of you. You can never really consider yourself to be a person of actual value or worth unless your partner confirms it.
4. You never feel at ease or relaxed whenever you’re together.
Whenever you are supposedly in love with a person, it should always be easy for you to be relaxed and at ease with one another. You shouldn’t have to constantly be feeling on edge or nervous around each other.
5. You over-analyze every single conversation that you have or gesture that your partner makes.
You feel like you constantly have to read into whatever your partner tells you or does for you because you never get the sense that you really understand how they’re feeling or what they’re thinking.
6. You have this compulsion to be constantly keeping tabs on your partner.
Of course, it’s natural for you to want to keep tabs on your partner in a relationship. But it’s a different scenario entirely when you do it in an obsessive or a compulsive manner.
7. You have basically turned your life upside down just to accommodate your partner.
You’ve compromised all of your deepest morals and standards just so you can keep your partner in your life. You’re essentially a completely different person from when you first met.
8. You feel more fear in the relationship than you feel love and respect.
You mostly act out of fear in the relationship. You are afraid that anything you might say or do will impact your partner in a negative way and it makes you perpetually nervous.
9. You stop doing the things that you love because you feel it gets in the way of your relationship.
You’ve completely lost all sense of your individuality because you stop doing the things that make you happy. You stop doing all the things that you love because you feel it’s the only way for you to keep your partner by your side.
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