What did you learn from your breakup?
There just isn’t much that a person can do to stifle the pain of having to go through a breakup. You so desperately wish to be with this person but you know that things just can’t turn out the way that you want. That’s where a lot of the pain comes from; that feeling of helplessness. There’s nothing you can do to appease the situation and you just have to make do with what you’re given. Loneliness will start to plague your life and you will not know how to deal with it. You have gotten so used to being in a relationship with someone that you’ve completely forgotten what it’s like to live life on your own. Things don’t get easier when it seems like your ex seems to be living a much better life than you’re living now.
However difficult things might seem, you have to know that things are going to pick up eventually. You are gradually going to be able to put yourself back together again. You will be able to stand up on your two feet, ready to face whatever challenges the world has in store for you. You just have to have faith in yourself and you have to be brave enough to actually face the world as a lone individual.
Once you actually develop the resolve to improve your life; once you just choose to become a better person, then so many things will start to open up for you. You will gain some much needed perspective on life. You will come to very valuable realizations about love that you need to remember going forward. You will learn some very important lessons as you are slowly picking up the pieces of your life. Here are a few of those lessons:
1. It was absolutely devastating.
And breakups are always devastating. There is just no changing that fact. People get into relationships and they become very emotionally invested. Once a romantic union goes up in flames, all of that emotional investment comes crashing down like a wall of bricks.
2. It was your fault.
Yes. It was your fault that you broke up and that’s okay. It was both of your faults. It’s just that things aren’t always meant to be and you had to learn that the hard way. But that’s okay. Mistakes are made so that we don’t commit them again in the future.
3. It was inevitable.
You couldn’t even stop it if you tried. The universe always has a plan for all of us and it doesn’t care about our feelings or our emotions. If something just isn’t meant to be, there is no possible way for you to remedy that situation. – Continue reading on the next page
4. You get to choose when you want to be okay again.
You have to know that your pain is temporary and that only you can decide when you want to be okay with yourself again. You have to go at your own pace and you can’t let anyone else pressure you into rushing. Just allow yourself to be human and accept the sadness as it comes to you.
5. Being single doesn’t have to be a bad thing.
When you were in a relationship, you thought that going back to the single life would mean that you would be perpetually sad and depressed about being alone all the time. That doesn’t have to be the case. Your life can be just as beautiful and as exciting as a single person. It’s all a matter of how you are going to choose to live it.
6. Love is something you can never give up on.
Just because love didn’t work out for you once doesn’t mean it’s never going to work out for you ever again. You can’t just give up on the idea of love. Yes, you can burn bridges and cut ties with toxic people who left you heartbroken in the past. But never give up on the idea of finding that perfect kind of love that you deserve.
7. All people are broken just like you.
Just because you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders at the moment doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re alone in this fight. A lot of people have been broken more than you, and they are still pushing through. There’s no reason why you can’t push through as well.
8. You have the power to make the most of what broke you.
Just because your relationship broke you doesn’t mean that you can’t get anything positive out of it. A smart and intelligent person will always see every setback as some sort of learning experience. Be reflective about your heartbreaking experience and come back a better and stronger human being.
9. You are always your highest priority.
Always choose to love yourself first. Because at the end of the day, you are going to be the only person that you can really rely on.
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