Don’t say yes to an abusive relationship.
No one is perfect. And we must always learn to keep that in mind with our relationships. Just because we have partners who make occasional mistakes in our relationship doesn’t mean that we should abandon them right away. We must always learn to be patient and understanding in that regard. We have to give our partner the opportunities to redeem themselves after they do us wrong. And that’s part of what it means to be in a mature relationship. It’s about a healthy tolerance for each other’s shortcomings as you grow and develop into better people together. Sometimes, you need to fail and fall short before you can figure things out and then you learn and grow to become the person you’re really meant to be.
However, there are some instances wherein your patience and understanding can only stretch so far. Just because you should be patient towards your partner doesn’t mean that you should constantly be subjecting yourself to their abuse and manipulation. There are just some things that are plain intolerable and unforgivable. You have to be able to draw that line for the sake of your own physical and emotional well-being. You shouldn’t have to subject yourself to an abusive relationship especially when you know that you deserve better.
But you’re at a crossroads. You are always taught that you have to work on something that’s broken instead of just throwing it away. And to an extent, that’s true. But there are just some things in relationships that you can’t fix. And in that case, you should muster the courage to let go of the relationship as a whole. It might be difficult, but for your own sake, you have to be able to do it.
And to help you figure out when it’s time to just call it quits, you just have to read this article. Here are the 9 signs that you need to get out of your abusive relationship.
1. He cheats on you with a friend of yours or someone else close to you.
Some couples can get back to a place of health after a case of infidelity. Cheating isn’t necessary a deal breaker for some people and that’s fine. However, it’s another story entirely when your partner cheats on you with a friend or someone else who is close to you. That’s a betrayal of trust that is just on another level.
2. He demeans and belittles you in public.
He doesn’t care about your pride. He doesn’t care about your emotional well-being. He would gladly make you feel bad about yourself in front of others.
3. He abuses your family members or your close friends.
If a man is kind towards you, but is terrible towards the other people who are around you – then he isn’t a kind man. A genuinely kind man isn’t only going to be kind towards you; he is going to be kind in general. And if he isn’t consistent with his kindness, it’s only a matter of time when he starts abusing you.
4. He obsesses over your whereabouts and activities on an unhealthy scale.
He always wants to keep track of where you are and what you’re doing because he doesn’t trust you. He doesn’t respect you enough to acknowledge that you are entitled to your freedom.
5. He forces you to give in to sexual favors even when you’re uncomfortable with it.
You should never be forced into sexual activity. He has to have your consent before either of you engage in physical activity with one another. If he coerces you into sexual favors, then you know that he’s an abusive individual who doesn’t respect you.
6. He threatens to leave you whenever you don’t give him what he wants.
He gives you ultimatums. He threatens you with abandonment to make you feel like you are at his mercy. It’s a power play with him more than it is a loving relationship.
7. He constantly lies to you about a number of things.
You should never have to tolerate being in a relationship with someone who thinks that you are undeserving of the truth. You shouldn’t have to put up with someone who thinks that you are stupid enough to always buy into their lies.
8. He uses harmful language that is designed to hurt and scar you on an emotional level.
A man who uses vulgar language with you is a man you should leave right away. Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. Words hurt and he knows this more than anyone else.
9. He uses you for his own personal pleasures that don’t involve love.
He uses you for his money. He uses you for sexual pleasures. He uses you to make him feel better about himself. It’s like you’re an object or tool at his disposal. He doesn’t see you as a real person he should respect and love.
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