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9 Undeniable Signs That You Are Amazing In Bed

Sharmaine Angela Sharmaine Angela | June 19, 2018 | 5 min read

Are you interested in really making the most out of your intimate potential? Of course, you are. Who wouldn’t be? When you’re in a relationship with someone, you have to know just how important intimacy is going to be in keeping the passion and intimacy alive in your romance.

And if you’re going through some kind of a rut or a rough patch with your intimate life, then that can potentially translate to other problematic aspects of your relationship. You must always make it a point to really take full control of your body; master it to the best of your abilities and really know how to bring the passion back into your relationship. And you can’t afford to wait.

The moment that you see the problem, fight like hell to solve it. You can’t afford to be complacent. You can’t afford to be passive about it. But you can’t be too pressured about it either. You don’t have to be overthinking things. Just find what is natural for the two of you and go with the flow. Be adaptable. Be natural. Be genuine and sincere.

What exactly does it mean to be a intimate beast in the bedroom? What does it mean to have the power to actually rock somebody’s world when you’re making love? Well, intimate preferences can really differ from person to person. But there are also some universal principles regarding intimacy that never fail.

A lot of what comprises intimacy is one’s ability to really tap into all of that passion and emotional energy – and being able to translate all of that into something physical. The best kind of intimacy is the kind that isn’t about purely selfish physical pleasures. Instead, it’s a physical manifestation of love, affection, intimacy, and vulnerability that you build with another person.

A lot of what makes intimate relations is the intention that goes behind it. Not to say that purely unemotional intimacy can’t be great; it’s just that the intimacy that is driven by a person’s passion is always going to be the best kind.

Remember that a lot of what comprises intimacy isn’t just about what you do in the bedroom. It’s who you are in the relationship as a whole. It’s about your ability to really connect and bond with your lover. It’s about being able to present yourself as someone they can always trust and rely on.

It’s about really being able to ignite that spark and keep that flame burning for as long as you can. Of course, there are many factors that go into having satisfying intimacy. But if you want a general idea of what it takes to be a really good lover in the bedroom, then you need to make sure that you have the following qualities.

1. You are always open to learning.

You know that you aren’t perfect and that there is always room for growth. You always open yourself up to taking advice from your partner and learning as you go.

2. You don’t take things so seriously without compromising passion.

You are a really passionate person – and you know that passion can drive precision and excellence. But you also know that intimacy needs to be fun and enjoyable. It shouldn’t have to feel like work.

3. You have a way of making your partner feel confident.

You really don’t do anything to make your partner feel sad or insecure. You always make them feel like they are their best selves; that they are free to be whoever they want to be because you would never judge them for it. However, sometimes it’s important to recognize the warning signs of emotional unavailability in a relationship. Being mindful of those signs can help prevent misunderstandings and foster a deeper connection. Open communication about feelings and intentions can lead to a healthier bond and greater emotional security for both partners.

4. You are confident as well.

You don’t let your insecurities get the best of you. You always exude confidence and you are unapologetic about it. You know that you really have what it takes to be a great performer in the bedroom.

5. You have a willingness to try new things.

You are an explorer. You are an adventurer. You aren’t afraid to venture into the unknown and place yourself outside of your comfort zone.

6. You know how to effectively communicate your needs to your partner.

You don’t expect your partner to be a mind-reader. You don’t expect them to just know what you want. You really communicate your needs honestly and effectively. You don’t assume that everything is just going to fix themselves.

7. You don’t rush it.

You really take your time. You know that intimacy isn’t just a process that you can speed through. It’s not something that you just get over with.

8. You find as much joy in giving as you do in receiving.

You aren’t selfish at all. You know that intimacy is just as much a giving act than it is a receiving one.

9. You maintain full presence in the moment that you’re in.

You are always living in the present moment. You are never distracted. You always stay focused and you never take the moment that you’re in for granted.


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Guadalupe Petersen · February 2, 2023

All that is true. Now that I am older, I have no inhibitions. I ask my partner what he likes and tell him what I like.

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Audleyenuf · February 20, 2023

I totally agree on these 9 signs…. However, the love you make is only as good as the two of are out of bed…..

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Crystal Kline · February 20, 2023

Communication is key to any relationship be it friendship or a partnership. But sharing yourself with someone you love should be a feeling of pure extacy. I will 100% agree with being open minded and willing to try new things to keep thing fun and alive. 😘

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Bonnie · March 29, 2023

Well I love someone but hes not ready for a relationship n he has 2 young daughters under 12 yrs n he saids theirs no room in his life but for only his 2 daughters but he also flirts with other women telling them he loves them I have known him 3 yrs .but to me hes player in Disguise

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Sharmaine is a writer and relationship columnist based in New York. She studied sociology and has spent the last seven years writing about love, identity, and what it actually takes to build something lasting with another person. Her work is sharp, culturally aware, and never afraid to ask the uncomfortable question in the room. Readers come for the insight and stay for the honesty. When she is not at her desk she is at a concert, on a long walk through her neighborhood, or texting her friends paragraphs they did not ask for.