It really shouldn’t come to anyone’s surprise anymore at this point. One of the likely causes of death for relationships is unfaithfulness and infidelity. There are just so many relationships that end prematurely just because one or both parties couldn’t stay loyal and committed to one another.
We see it time and time again. Even contemporary media keeps on shoving the idea of cheating down our throats with movie plotlines and narratives that revolve around infidelity. It’s almost a naturalized aspect of human relationships nowadays. We even see it in the relationships of our friends. And if we’re unfortunate enough, we see it in our own relationships as well.
And one of the most damning and dangerous things about cheating is that it can strike anywhere and anyone. It doesn’t matter if you’re only just starting to date or if you’ve been married for years and years. You aren’t going to be safe from the temptations that come with infidelity and unfaithfulness.
Sometimes, you just can’t help but be human; you’re going to make mistakes. However, that doesn’t excuse you from making these mistakes at all. Cheating is never okay; and just because you’re imperfect doesn’t warrant you a free pass to cheat whenever you want. Do the noble thing and end your current relationship before engaging in relations with someone else.
But there’s another side to the story. What if you’re the one who is being cheated with? What if you are the homewrecker in this scenario? What if you’re the one who is jeopardizing a relationship that doesn’t even have anything to do with you?
What is going through your mind at that moment? Well, here are a few thoughts and feelings from real women about the matter:
“It was emotionally draining having to juggle around the feelings and emotions of so many people.” – Jackie, 42
When you get into a relationship with a married man, you’re not just dealing with the both of your feelings. You can be dealing with the feelings of at least 3 or 4 people and that can be very overwhelming.
“I allowed my feelings for him to develop but I didn’t want to be a homewrecker.” – Charity, 34
I just couldn’t help myself. I didn’t want him to break up his family because of me. But I also couldn’t just stop my feelings from developing into something serious.
“His wife wasn’t really the problem. It was the fact that he had kids which really made me feel bad about everything.” – Kay, 26
I couldn’t care less about his wife. But I was dead scared of what his kids would think and feel about the whole situation. I didn’t want to be the one who would break up their parents.
“I felt worse for him than I did for his wife.” – Amanda, 30
His wife just wasn’t giving him anything to work with. And so being with him, I didn’t feel bad for her at all. I felt bad for him because I knew that he definitely deserved more.
“I honestly didn’t know that he was already in a marriage. Had I known, I never would have allowed anything to happen between us.” – Denise, 29
He deceived me – but I should have known better. I should have been able to read the signs from the start. I was feeling careless. And by the time I had understood he whole situation, it was all too late.
“I tried to resist, but his charm was just too overwhelming. I was helpless to his compliments.” – Angelica, 40
I was just at a place in life where I needed someone else to validate my own existence. And that was bad. He started giving me the attention that I really craved for from other people. And I was like butter to his words.
“It was the thrill of the challenge that kept me coming back for more. It was us against the world.” – Susie, 30
It was the feeling of having the whole world against us that made me want to be with him even more. It was the adversity that really drove me into his arms.
“I really didn’t think much of it because his wife was treating him terribly anyway.” – Michelle, 24
For me, she got what she deserved. She was treating him terribly – and so he cheated on her. I didn’t really have much guilt at all about the whole situation.
“It was a matter of waiting for me. I just waited for him to leave his wife. And when he did. He made the wait totally worth it.” – Christine, 35
I really had to be patient. I knew that we had a future together, and I just really had to wait for him. And he actually came through. He happened to be worth the wait.
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