In a lawsuit filed by a couple who says they were promised a girl by a fertility clinic, the baby turned out to be a boy.
New York Post reported. Robin (Robbie) Routenberg-Wilhelm and Heather Wilhelm-Routenberg specifically requested that they have a daughter after undergoing fertility treatments.
Despite their excitement, the couple was devastated when they learned they were expecting a child. Their response has now been to file a lawsuit against the fertility clinic, claiming Heather “broke down” after her son’s birth and fell into a “dark depression” after finding she was pregnant.
According to the couple, CNY Fertility Clinic in Latham, New York, assured them that they could accurately determine the gender of an embryo before transferring it into Heather’s womb. At 15 weeks pregnant, the Buffalo couple was shocked to learn that they were expecting a boy.
In Heather’s explanation, she describes how sperm and egg from Robbie were combined to create the embryo. The embryo was then transferred into her womb.
“We selected CNY because they agreed we would be able to select female embryos,” she recalled, before explaining that: “We didn’t want to have a boy because of the assaults and because of the socialization of boys — there’s constant socialization of what it means to be a ‘real man.’ People say, ‘Oh, he’s a boy, let him hit you,’ and all the camouflage and guns don’t help. It reinforces masculinity, and that’s a reminder of the assaults every time.”
She said that, while she did not have Heather’s trauma to deal with, she also did not want a boy because of enforced masculinity, saying, “We did not sign up for that.”
Upon discovering Heather was indeed pregnant with a baby boy, the couple believed the embryo had been misplaced. “That’s when I flipped out,” Heather described, adding: “That’s when I felt my body was taken hostage.”
“We didn’t want to have a boy because of the assaults and because of the socialization of boys — there’s constant socialization of what it means to be a ‘real man,’” Heather told Klein. “People say, ‘Oh, he’s a boy, let him hit you,’ and all the camouflage and guns don’t help. It reinforces masculinity, and that’s a reminder of the assaults every time.”
Since then, they have grown to love their son as any parent would. However, they still feel that this initial connection was stolen from them by the fertility clinic.
“He’s an innocent being, he didn’t deserve any of this. The clinic messed with something so integral: our baby’s first formative years. That’s the reason I am doing this — because I love my kid so much. We think our son deserved that bond from the start,” said Heather.
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Wow, you can’t order a child like ordering a sofa from a catalog. I am sure they try their best to give you exactly what you ask for. This is ridiculous.
they didn’t put faith in the lord but in men as if men is the creator of us God is the only one who determine the sex of a baby it doesn’t matter what the doctor say God has the finally saying may God for give these parents
I don’t understand the reasoning behind not wanting a boy? “He’s a boy, let him hit you”. Since when has anyone ever that like ever? And the camouflage and guns? I’m just not grasping the concept because it makes no sense at all. Women are capable of doing the exact same thing of everything you stated as reasoning. It’s very confusing. And to be suicidal over it. Just look at it like a normal pregnancy, no woman in the world who gets pregnant naturally gets the luxury of choosing their babies gender. It’s just not realistic. And in my personal opinion shouldn’t be as big of a deal as what y’all are turning it into, and just seems like a way to get some money out of a wealthy company. It’s just not worth suing over. 🤷🏼♀️
This is so sad because there are so many women and men who want children and would do anything to have one. So instead of being grateful they want to sue because they didn’t get what they wanted. This is such a selfish society. Children are not animals. You get what you get. You just pray they are healthy. Also, by them being a same sex couple this was an epic moment. Years ago this would not even have happened. We are spoiled little brats and it’s going to get worse.
I think they’re deplorable humans. He’s just an innocent child who didn’t asked to be born to a same sex couple, let alone a couple who are taking their beliefs on what they deem all of society to be way to far. They first and foremost should be thankful that they have a happy ( well that’s debatable, considering how much he missed out on ) healthy little baby as there’s many wonderful people who are unable to have a child or who have a child with special needs or who have lost a child. Secondly you get what you’re given and little boys are wonderful, they can be gentle, loving, kind, sweet just as much as little girls can. Children learn so much in their first year of life and what they learn they learn from their parents. So if you want to have a happy, healthy, wonderful, amazing, kind and caring man it’s up to you as his parents to show him and teach him and that starts as soon as they’re delivered in the delivery suite.
I feel the parents are completely in the wrong. I agree, a misgender might have happened, but to give birth to a healthy, happy child is one of the greatest gifts on earth. A child is a blessing, my son is my angel. I feel sorry for the child. He needs decent parents.
Omg
I’m curious to know, how eggs and sperm were taken from robin? Is she a snail?
Possibly he/she identifies as a snail ?
I’m beyond disgusted with the way these “so called” mothers think. Children are a blessing & their son DEFINITELY didn’t ask to be here. I have a son & I’m raising him to be a gentleman as a SINGLE mom. The nerve of these women. Smh I feel sorry for that little boy!!
There is a very simple solution to this. Give him to me, and I will rear him to be what GOD wants him to be. just think; your, “mental state”, will return to whatever it was before the clinic betrayed your “wishes”. I refuse to judge either of you; not my place. But the CHILD deserves a chance- which is the point of reproduction. It’s not about, “you”, it’s about HIM!
Next time ask for a blond blue eyed Aryan child. Adolf Hitler would be so proud of you
The clinic didn’t rob the child of a bond, the parent’s bias did. If they found out the baby was a boy at 15 weeks, that left 25 to accept it. This isn’t about what’s been taken from their child – that was their doing.
So you don’t want your child?Return him and get a refund.Oh you want to keep him?You can make money of the boy by suing the people that gave you the biggest blessing in your life.
You habe choice to make.You can maby get money and have money and kid that will hate you when he finds out the extreme you went to to show your dissatisfaction of having him.
Or get over the disappointment,heal your heart and have kid that will love you for accepting him and loving him for who he is and for being grateful that you have him as your child.