It can be very tempting to just jump right into that relationship with the smooth-talking guy who seems to know what he’s doing. He’s saying all of the right things and he’s pushing all of the right buttons. He seems like he’s just too good to be true… and honestly, he is. He’s a player and he’s just putting all of the regular moves on you.
Sure, he’s going to seem all fine and dandy at the start. But the deeper you get into the relationship, the more that his personality is going to unravel. And it’s going to be very difficult for you to get over the fact that you’ve been hoodwinked, fooled, bamboozled, and just completely made fun of by a man who didn’t care about you after all.
You are going to want to make sure that you protect yourself from this kind of guy to the best way that you can: awareness. You must always be aware of the many red flags that he might be exhibiting which would tell you about what kind of character he really has.
The best defense is a good offense, and if you know how to actively avoid these kinds of men or if you manage to beat them to the punch, then you would be safe from whatever havoc they are looking to unleash in your life.
Take my advice on this matter. I’m a guy and I know all of the moves because I’ve lived it. And if you want to protect yourself from a player, then you’re going to want to make sure that you stay vigilant. If he’s exhibiting a lot of the following signs, you might want to get out as early as possible:
1. He has an aggressive personality.
He has a very aggressive personality even at the start of the relationship. It’s as if he’s already pressuring you to be a certain way or to do certain things that you’re not really comfortable with. He seems like he wants to rush through the various phases of the relationship.
2. He tends to keep to himself a lot.
He is the kind of guy who tends to keep to himself a lot. He doesn’t really have a lot of friends and he never really hangs out with anyone. That might be a big red flag as far as his personality and his character is concerned.
3. He has narcissistic tendencies.
If he has narcissistic tendencies, then you know that you definitely have to be careful around him. It’s always difficult whenever you get into a relationship with a narcissist because he’s only going to be looking out for his own needs. He isn’t going to be taking your desires or needs into consideration as much as he should.
4. He is inconsistent with his affection.
If he’s very inconsistent with the ways that he’s kind and sweet to you, then he’s probably just playing around. A guy with genuine feelings is always going to be consistently putting in the effort to get you to like him. If he’s just not being consistent, it means that his heart isn’t in the right place.
5. He acts very secretively.
It’s normal for a guy to not necessarily be showing all of his cards right away when the relationship is still young. But if he’s just acting totally secretively, then it might be a cause for concern. He might be hiding some very deep and dark stuff.
6. He shows a tendency to be unreliable.
He just doesn’t deliver. If he can be unreliable, then you don’t want that kind of disappointment in your life any longer. You don’t want to be dating someone who says he’ll do something but then he ends up not delivering on it.
7. He isn’t always very honest.
Honesty is always going to be one of the most important aspects of any kind of relationship. And if you find that he has tendencies to be dishonest with you at the start, then that’s a red flag that you need to just stay away from. You never want to be with someone who just openly lies to you and deceives you.
8. He doesn’t talk about the future with you.
If he’s not talking to you about the future, then it’s likely that he just doesn’t see the two of you having a future together at all. He doesn’t really see the two of you as being together down the line and that’s why he excuses himself from any narrative surrounding your future.
9. He doesn’t take you to meet his friends.
He obviously doesn’t deem you important enough to go and meet his friends. He doesn’t want to expose you to the intimate aspects of his world because he doesn’t really see you sticking around long enough for you to matter to the people in his life.