Relationships are rarely ever easy for anyone. Relationships are always going to serve as big challenges for people who are looking to make love work. But it can be infinitely more difficult for the people who overthink and overlove. In fact, it can be nearly impossible.
When you are someone who overthinks in a relationship, it can be just outright unbearable. You are going to have to weather through so many moments of confusion and self-doubt. You are going to feel very confused and anxious about everything that is going on around you. There are going to be certain things that aren’t really problems in themselves, but they’re still going to feel that way.
It’s no secret that overthinking has a tendency to ruin a lot of relationships. But it’s not necessarily something that some people would be able to help. It’s not something that most people would be able to control. Some people just sit and wait for that one person who would be understanding of the way that they are. And you might be that person. You might still be waiting.
Your mind has a tendency of playing tricks on you a lot. You are one who is always paying close attention to anything that anyone might say to you. You are always taking notice of even the subtlest mannerisms and gestures that most other people would just typically miss. You pick up on things that might not really be there. You add meaning to things that shouldn’t really have any meaning at all. You overanalyze everything. You manufacture problems and issues that don’t exist anywhere other than your own mind.
To put things simply, your anxiety is always cautioning you about something bad that is about to happen. Your anxiety is forcing you to conjure various situations and scenarios in your head that play with your nerves. You often feel paralyzed by your own thoughts.
Well, I just want you to know that everything is going to be okay. I know that your mind is telling you that everything that could possibly go wrong is going to go wrong. And that’s okay. I know you’re struggling with that. But I want you to believe that everything will be fine. There are people in your life who will always be there for you no matter how rough things might get.
You don’t have to respond to any of these things that I’m saying. But I’m going to be consistent in telling you that your existence and your worries are valid. You are not less of a person just because you overthink. You are still deserving of love and happiness. You are still worthy of the joy that most other people seem to be able to attain so easily for themselves.
At the start of your relationships, you might be far too worried about everything that’s going on around you. You might be too distracted by your own thoughts that you end up depriving yourself of the joys and wonders of love. But try opening up your heart. If you are lucky enough to end up with someone who is trustworthy and reliable, you will see just how easy it is to let loose and relax.
You will have a tendency to be very indecisive and unsure about plenty of things that go on in your life. You are always going to want to be asking the people you love about their opinions and what you can do to make them happier. But you shouldn’t take that to mean that you are weak and spineless. You are as strong and independent as the rest of them. You have just encountered way too many people in your life who have fed into your self-doubt; people who have made you feel very unsure about who you are and what you think.
And none of that is your fault. You have just been made the victim of toxic social programming. And you need to fight like hell to break out of that mold.
You are going to look at yourself and you will have a tendency to hate this aspect of your personality. You find it hard to accept the fact that you manufacture your own problems in your life. And you need to stop blaming yourself for that. It’s okay to not like where you are now but that doesn’t mean that you have to stay there forever. Seek comfort in the arms of those you love. Find solace in the love of those who are nearest to your heart.
You might be tired of fighting but you can’t give up. Because what you are is beautiful. You might be anxious but it’s all for the principles of love and goodness. You might be someone who overthinks. But that also means that you are someone who overloves. And it is always better to give an excess of love than it is to not give enough of it.