There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. And it’s designed that way for a good reason. Perfection is boring. Perfection doesn’t bring with it any real challenges. Part of what makes love so amazing is the feeling of fulfilment and accomplishment that comes along with being able to go through whatever hurdles or challenges are placed in front of you. But it’s not like we have a choice in the matter anyway. As human beings, we are all inherently flawed and imperfect. We are all just natural screw-ups.
None of us are going to get things right every single time. We all have our individual blemishes – and when we get into relationships with other flawed and imperfect people, things only get even more complicated and challenging. But that’s okay. That’s part of the deal. It’s all a part of growth. Making mistakes is part of learning; it’s part of growth. And when you’re not growing, you are essentially dying.
When your relationship isn’t growing, it’s dying. And that’s why it’s okay to have a flawed love. Because in a weird way, a flawed love is also the most perfect kind of love that there is.
As ironic as it may sound, it’s the truth. The best and most perfect kind of love is the one that has the will and determination to overcome an array of challenges. That’s why only strong, mature, and temperamental people are able to sustain relationships. No matter how flawed two people might be on an individual level, with enough humility, resilience, and commitment, there is no challenge that can’t be overcome. There are no problems that can’t be solved.
Remember that a relationship is never really over until the two people involved decide to give up on it. And when two flawed individuals are relentless enough, then the relationship always has a fighting chance – no matter how flawed or imperfect it might be.
We must all keep in mind that all of the best things that life can offer never come easily. All of the best things in this world are worth waiting for; are worth fighting for. It’s the same with love. Love is the single best thing that two people could possible experience together. And so it should come to no one’s surprise that you’re always going to have to work hard for love. You’re always going to have to commit yourself to sustaining a love; to earning someone else’s love.
If you are decided on falling in love with someone, then you have to consciously choose to love that person every single day. You can’t afford to be complacent. You can’t afford to relax. You can’t afford to take things for granted. Because once you do, you are putting yourself at even more of a disadvantage. Love is difficult enough as it is. And if you don’t take it seriously, you are essentially dooming yourself and your partner. You must always be willing to go all-in if you want your love to be real.
Because love isn’t something that you can just approach casually. There are no room for half-measures in love. It’s either you give it your all or you give it nothing at all. You can’t have doubts. You can’t let your insecurities get the best of you. You can’t let your fears consume you. Yes, it’s going to be scary. Yes, it’s going to be challenging. Yes, you’re going to be at your most vulnerable. But these are all necessary struggles that you’re going to have to go through to experience what real love truly is.
The best and the healthiest kinds of relationships are always the ones with individuals who are problem-solvers. They are the ones who aren’t afraid of confronting their own weaknesses and their own vulnerabilities. They are the ones who face their challenges head on instead of sweeping their problems under a rug in the hopes that they eventually go away on their own. They are the kinds of couples who are able to drown out all of the external noise.
They know that whatever solutions they can come up with for their problems can only come from within. They don’t let themselves get distracted. They don’t allow themselves to lose focus. They don’t take each other for granted.
Again, in a weird way, the most perfect thing about love is the fact that it is imperfect. It’s part of the duality of life. Without sorrow, you would never know happiness. Without struggle, you would never know triumph. Without despair, you would never know genuine elation. Without emptiness, you would never find a sense of meaning or completion. Without imperfection, you would never know how to appreciate what it means to pursue a perfect love. And that’s why love is so beautiful.