Hey, you. I just want you to know that it’s all going to get better someday. You will be okay.
Yes, I also know that I may sound like I don’t know what I’m talking about. You might think that I’m just being naïve and foolish with a misplaced sense of optimism. You might think that it’s virtually impossible for you to ever be okay again given the current circumstances. But it’s going to be fine. You’re going to be fine. It’s just not going to be easy.
The process of moving on and getting over a heartbreak isn’t going to be swift and simple. Oh no. In fact, it’s far from that. It’s going to be very slow and difficult. It’s going to be very painful. It’s going to be very stressful. However, one day, you’re just eventually going to wake up and think to yourself, “I can’t believe I ever let a guy like that hurt me the way that he did.” And it’s in that moment where you know that you will have finally moved on from him.
At this moment, you are going to feel totally jaded and despondent just because your entire world has been turned upside down in such dramatic fashion. For the longest time, you have lived a life with the assumption that you and your partner would always stay together. And now you have to face a world alone. You are forced to confront your own solitude and you have to feel like you have to start from scratch. You feel completely lost because you used to share a huge bulk of your life with another person. And now, you find yourself feeling paralyzed and crippled by how intimidating life suddenly seems. You had a plan for the way you wanted your life to turn out. And now, you have been forced to throw all of that out of the window and start fresh. You feel like life is telling you to go back to the beginning while simultaneously taking away half of your limbs.
You feel like you don’t really own anything in your own life. You are completely stressed out by the fact that you are going to have to fend for yourself in an unforgiving world that owes you no favors. You are worried that you are going to be disappointing a lot of people with how things have turned out in your own life. And on top of that, you are still grieving the loss of your relationship and you’re still trying to pick up the emotional pieces of yourself that have been broken. You realize that you are alone and that you have to face all of your problems on your own now.
You feel completely uncomfortable with how everything is playing out in your life. You were so set on the idea of the two of you just growing old together and forever sharing your lives with one another. But he broke that promise to you. He broke your heart. And even worse? It looks like he isn’t coming back. He is moving on with his life. He’s starting anew and he seems content to be living a life without you in it. You spent so much time building that life that the two of you were sharing together – and yet, he seemed to have been able to dispose of it so quickly. And the worst part of it all is that you have to pay witness to him moving on from you in such a casual and easy manner. It’s as if you meant nothing to him after all. And it can never feel good to be discarded in such a manner. It can never feel good to be treated like that.
At this moment, you might feel like your life is over and that there isn’t anything to be happy about or thankful for. You might just want to give up on the world altogether because of how unfairly it has treated you. He seems to be doing just fine and here you are scrambling to get your life back on track. He seems like he knows what he’s doing and you are as lost as ever. He seems to be happy and your heart is filled with so much stress, rage, and fear. And I understand that. You must be scared. Anyone who is in your shoes would feel the same. But again, trust me when I say that that is only temporary.
The pain that you feel is only something that you feel right now. And eventually, it’s all just going to go away. You are going to wake up one day with a renewed vigor and energy. You are going to be more confident and excited about life. You’re going to be happy again. And all you have to do is just trust that eventually, everything is going to be okay.
