Engagement rings and wedding rings are things our world puts a lot of value on. While we support pretty rings with meaningful and thoughtful stories behind them, we don’t think rings should be extremely expensive unless both partners are happy spending that much.
Today’s story is about a woman who received her boyfriend’s grandmother’s ring as her engagement ring. She posted it on Facebook, and the reactions were all over the place. Later, it became viral – it was shared on Reddit by Mortadelllla. While a lot of people didn’t like the ring, they also didn’t like the fact that it was shared so openly on Facebook because things like this should be discussed in private.
The girlfriend wrote:
“my boyfriend finally asked me to marry him and this is really what he gives me… he pulled it out of his pocket and it took just everything in me to not laugh and question whether this was real life or not LMAO”
“I’ve had it for a few days now, and I’ve gotten used to it so I don’t think it’s bad so bad… but also maybe I’ve just come to terms with it. I definitely with it was something different, but oh well… it was his grandmothers and the pearl is my birthstone and I think that’s the only reason I’ve been able to tolerate it.”
The Responses
Reddit’s community didn’t like the fact that something as private as an engagement ring was being discussed everywhere, but they were all unanimous on not liking the ring. Here are some of the best comments:
chevyfried said:
“As a guy this may be an unpopular opinion, but that’s not a ring you ask someone to marrry you with. I’m not saying because its cheap. It is a beautiful antique ring no doubt.”
“So yes, she was trashy for posting this on FB, but I agree that is not an engagement ring.”
MostlyChaoticNeutral said:
“As a woman, I agree. This is a milestone anniversary ring that you only take out and wear on occasions where it’s appropriate. I like pearls, so I don’t hate the ring itself, but I sure as sh*t wouldn’t wear it every day.”
xtrawolf wrote:
“FYI, this was posted specifically in a FB group about engagement rings. It was not on her timeline for her fiance and his family to see. Imo it is harsh, but then again, the ring is ugly. If my fiance had proposed with a ring like that one, I’d have asked him to return it so we could go pick out a ring we both like. You really ought to like your wedding/engagement rings because you’ll be wearing them every day of your life and you may even be buried with them.”
slimfaydey wrote:
“The ring is ugly. I would hope they could talk about it and come to the same conclusion. The fact that it’s an antique heirloom ring is nice, the fact that her birth stone is pearl is also good. But the ring itself is ugly.”
“It would seem logical to account this as an engagement ring, and then get another ring as the daily wear indicator of engagement. As this ring is certainly not a daily-wearer.”
dfitch11 shared their own ring story:
“You don’t have to spend a lot to get a nice ring. That however is not a nice ring.”
“My fiancee’s favorite ring is a $20 ring I got on Amazon.”
Stoic_Stranger said:
“I’m a guy and tend not to have an opinion one way or another about jewelry, but that is definitely an old lady ring.”
differentimage commented:
“To be fair, that is a hideous piece of costume jewelry.”
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What are your thoughts on this engagement ring? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Source: Reddit
As a 65 year old woman, I have an opinion.
He asked you to marry him. He gave you a ring that is dear to him and his family, and your whine like a spoiled brat. When my husband proposed to me 18 years ago ( I was a widow) he gave me a Black Hills Gold band. It was an engagement and my wedding band. I cherish it more than diamonds.
It is the love and thought in the proposal that counts.
Grow up or your marriage may not survive Bridezilla
I agree with the other commenters, she’s an entitled, stupid, bratty, child. It’s an outdated piece, to be sure, but it’s not ugly and it’s not cheap, it probably means the world to the guy proposing and symbolizes the actual becoming of part of his family. To go online and publicly humiliate the guy, whether he sees it or not, but he probably has at this point, shows exactly why she should be ashamed of herself and why he should leave your ass and find someone who will actually appreciate him.
I think it was a awesome gesture she must mean.the world to him.its not about the ring but the thought ur other ladies are material things grow up
If I were the boyfriend, I would retract my proposal. Is this really the kind of person that you want to spend the rest of your life with? I would imagine that the boyfriend was very excited to give her this special piece of jewelry, and her reaction is quite disgusting. She could have gotten another ring down the road sometime. Who cares about the ring, it’s about the love! To me this is just so petty and selfish. I would definitely rethink my proposal if I were him I don’t feel that she’s too deserving behaving this way. I feel sorry for the boyfriend.
That was a very kind and romantic gesture to propose with his grandma’s ring a woman that helped raise him to be kind, loving and romantic. It may not be the ring of her dreams but if she is acting like Bridezilla before the wedding, the lease she can do is give it back and let him find a more loving and romantic lady who will cherish him
I agree. It seems like all the people in this group are entitled brats and are probably mostly single and will start that way their miserable lives. Especially if all they value is a piece of metal and a stone.
That’s more COSTUME, than an Engagement Ring, I have my Moms jewelry and the Ring I wear everyday was her Engagement ring when she was going to get Married for the 2nd time. Her other rings like what she is wearing I wear on Special occasions, NOT everyday. This Young Man had good intentions, but he should had given this to her 5, 10 or 25 yrs later as a heirloom piece to show off at their Anniversary. So go e him a little credit, just try to guide him to what you BOTH would prefer as an Engagement Ring. Congratulations thou on the Engagement
I could care less about the ring. I just need the right man for me and I’d be perfectly fine with that
Pearls are not great for daily wear. They can’t stand up to it. All she had to do was tell him that and ask to go shopping for a ring she can wear every day. I also dislike yellow gold so that would be a deal-breaker for me. And someone I’m engaged to should know that about me.