When a woman goes through a breakup, she gets all the support on could imagine. Her friends, family and the society will offer her sympathy, advice and help in all its possible forms. Everyone entirely accepts her sadness and the heartbreak that ensues as normal and almost necessary. However, when men go through a break p, things are a bit different for them. When a man goes through a fresh breakup, every person he comes across will tell him to ma up and get over it because there are so many girls out there that shedding tears over a break up is pointless.
Let’s stop pretending men don’t need the same kind and level of emotional support after a break up as women. When we fall in love, we tend to think nothing can take that person away from us and it feels like thing will NOT work out for the person we love and us. It feels perfect, and it feels like it will always be perfect. Sadly, things can take the wrong turn and heartbreaks can happen. Whether we see it coming or not, a breakup takes a toll on everyone. No one is ever immune to heartbreak. If you are a man dealing with a breakup and with a past that didn’t end too well for you, we’re here to tell you that it’s okay. If you can’t get over where you currently are in your life, there’s hope, and there’s a way out for you. In times like these, what will you get you through the gloomy days and lonely nights is your friends, your family, your work, and every other hobby or activity that you turn into your coping mechanism.
Getting over a breakup, especially one that didn’t end well is hard, but it is by no means, impossible. It will take a lot of time, patience and acceptance; acceptance of the fact that your heart is aching for the relationship that just didn’t work out. If you don’t recognize your pain, you’re not going to be able to do away with it. So, hang in there and keep reading because by the end of this article you will have realized the steps you need to take to heal your broken heart. There are brighter days ahead of you, just try and introduce these steps in your current lifestyle and before you know it, you will start feeling much lighter and much more hopeful.
1. Distract yourself and keep active
Your life feels empty right now. You feel like a massive chunk of your life that meant a lot to you is missing. It makes you wonder whether this feeling of hollowness shall ever go away or not. Your life will take a turn for the better once you start to distract yourself and do as many productive and positive activities as possible. Start working out. Go for an early morning run. Start cooking. Listen to more music than before. Catch up on things you’ve missed out on. It may sound like nothing, but these things will bring a lot of meaning to your life. You need to start giving yourself something to look forward to from here on.
Focus on the other significant relationship in your life
Use social support to get through this breakup. In times like these when you feel alone because the absence of a relationship, pay more attention to your friends and family than ever before. Be there for them. Spend time with them. They will turn out to be your biggest rock and an unshakable support system. In this period of closure, you will how much your loved ones value you. So, try and move on from the break up with the help of social interaction with the people that mean the most to you and more importantly, to those who you mean the most to.
2. Fake it till you make it
You may not be over your ex, your heart may still be utterly broken, but you don’t have to keep telling yourself that. Use the “act as if” principle in this case. Tell yourself you’re stronger than this and act as if you’re almost, if not completely, over her. Keep reminding yourself that you’ll be okay, you’ll get through it and act as if you’ve already made it to the finish line.
3. Give yourself time
It’s not going to happen overnight. It’s going to take time, and you will have to learn to be patient with yourself. The road to recovery is not an easy one. If you want to make sure you bounce back stronger than ever, don’t get frustrated with yourself. Don’t push yourself too hard and don’t let it get to you. Your broken heart will need time and instead of forcing it to heal unusually quickly, wait it out and sympathize with yourself. Don’t hate yourself for any of the things you’re feeling. You will come out of this feeling better than ever.