Weddings are meant to be beautiful and intimate; they’re not the perfect place for pranks and stunts. There’s already so much going through a bride’s mind on her wedding day; the last thing she needs is a groom who has pranks planned for her that are supposed to remind her of past trauma.
Here is what the emotional bride wrote to Dear Prudence:
“I got married just before Christmas and am hoping to be divorced or annulled by the end of January. Obviously, that wasn’t the plan originally, but …
“I never cared about getting married, but I wasn’t opposed to it. So when my boyfriend proposed in 2020, we decided to go for it. We each took on about half the responsibility for organizing the wedding, but I think I was pretty reasonable about compromise when he really wanted something. My only hard-and-fast rule was that he would not rub cake in my face at the reception.
Things seemed pretty okay up to this point, but then her letter took a disturbing turn.
“Being a reasonable man who knows me well, he didn’t. Instead, he grabbed me by the back of the head and shoved my head down into it. It was planned since the cake was DESTROYED, and he had a bunch of cupcakes as backup.
“I left. Next day I told him we were done. I am standing by that. The thing is that over the holidays EVERYONE has gotten together to tell me I should give him a second chance. That I am overreacting because of my issues (I am VERY claustrophobic after a car accident years ago, and I absolutely panicked at being shoved into a cake and held there). That I love him (even though right now I don’t feel that at all), he loves me, and that means not giving up at the first hurdle. I don’t want to, but everyone is so united and confident in their assurance I am making a terrible mistake that I wonder if they are right.
—Give Him Till February?”
Slate’s Jenée Desmond-Harris, responded instantly to the distraught bride:
“Dear Till February,
“Everyone’s sure you’re making a mistake, but they’re not the ones who have to wake up every day with a man whose behavior massively turns them off. You are. So you only have to listen to yourself. I think what he did was a red flag about not respecting you and your wishes—to say nothing of the physical aggression—but even if it wasn’t, the fact that you really didn’t like it is enough. Make a mental note about which of your loved ones don’t seem to value your happiness, and continue with your divorce.”
Our Take on This Bride’s Story
If you know your wife-to-be is claustrophobic because of a traumatizing car accident, you’d never even think about doing anything like that to her on her wedding day.
But this groom just wanted his pranks pulled without a second thought for his wife’s well-being. We hope this woman listened to Prudence and went ahead with the divorce because the groom showed a lot of red flags and toxic traits.
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