A dating coach explains why she thinks men should pay for dates, but not everyone agrees. Read her explanation here:
Nelly, who posts under the name @ask.nelly on TikTok, shared a stitched clip that started with a man saying that if women think men have to buy them dinner, they are entitled.
Nelly strongly disagreed, saying: “It’s so revolting when men talk like that, but I’m here to explain how dating works ’cause some people need it.”.
“So if a man asks a woman out and he is romantically interested in her and doesn’t pay the bill, it isn’t that she is entitled. One of these five things is true: he’s not chivalrous, he’s not a gentleman.
“Number two, he’s cheap. Number three, he can’t afford the date.
“Number four, he doesn’t respect women, and number five, he doesn’t see her as a prize to be won because, in his eyes, interest is always correlated with effort. It’s always one of those five things.”
The caption for this clip reads: “Entitlement is when men ask women out and don’t pay.”
Nelly’s fellow TikTok users were quick to agree, saying, “You’re right.”. I agree.
Another said: “If someone says, ‘let’s split,’ I say, ‘no thanks, I got it.'”
While a third commented: “If you want to split bills later down the road, it’s another convo, but if the guy asks you on the first date, he must pay.”
Others, however, liked things a bit more equal.
Someone commented: “Missed the point.”. A man owes you nothing, just as you do not owe him anything. “Especially if you do not know each other well.”
Someone else wrote: “Did you guys hear what he said?”? Are we not entitled to anything? “If you’re not worth a walk in the park for a first date, then you’re not worth dinner.”
“I think the one asking the other person out should pay.” said someone else.