Take your time, rushed love never lasts for long.
Men are complicated creatures and in regard, opposite to women. Men do not like easy attention. Thousands of years of evolution have made all the men chase after the things they want. Men today, are just civilized hunters, of course they haven’t abandoned their evolutionary roots!
Men want to chase you. They want to work for your attention. Showering them with attention in the form of frequent texts, phone calls and clingy vibes will only make him distant from you. Don’t give yourself to him too easily and make him work for it.
Keeping the aforementioned facts in mind, we have drawn up a list of possible pitfalls and ways to deal with them:
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Text and forget!
Do not, in any case, send two texts in a row. Follow one rule when it comes to texting: text and forget. You sending multiple texts would show him that you have no life and therefore needy for him to give you attention. Instead, make him feel like that you’re busy with your own stuff and it’s a blessing for him to have received a text from you.
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Availability
We understand that you really want to hang out with him a lot but you cannot always have what you want. If you want to keep a man’s attention, then don’t always be available when he wants to hang out. Instead, be busyВ sometimes, tell him that you already have plans with your friends or you can just tell him that you don’t feel like hanging out at the moment.
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Open Book
Most women are open-books when it comes to relationships. Well, ladies! Being an open book with a man is a bad idea. In the initial stages of a relationship, stay aloof. Be mysterious and be a riddle for him to solve. Do not reveal much about yourself or your life. Instead, make him invest in you. Make him talk about his life and his past. Soon, he will be restless to find out all about you and due to this reason, you will always have his full attention and concentration. At this stage, start revealing yourself at a very slow pace.В – Continue reading on the next page
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Gifts
Unless or until you are in a committed relationship with him, do not give or accept gifts. That way, he will hold you in a high regard as a woman with principles. Moreover, split the bill for all the dates that you go to. Men are naturally the providers and if you are wise with that part of his psyche, he will soon be restless to get close to you and provide you with comfort and support.
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Physical intimacy
Do not! We repeat, DO NOT give him any type of physical intimacy before he commits to you. Showering him with physical intimacy would make him form a physical dynamic to your relationship with him. Instead, focus more time on going out to fun places and engaging in enjoyable activities together. Once the bond is formed and he is yearning for your touch, give it to him finally.
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Feelings
Do not tell him how you feel about him. As instructed earlier, stay a little aloof. Let him tell you how he feels about you and the way you are headed. Do not make the mistake of telling him that you love him first.
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Friends and family
Do not force him to meet your friends and family. Even if he insists on meeting them, tell him that you will let him meet them when the time Is right. This will intrigue him and he will start making efforts to gain enough affection from you where you are finally ready to introduce him to your friends and family.В – Continue reading on the next page
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Social circle
Maintain your existing social circle and do not change your plans for him. Most women make the mistake of abandoning their friends and acquaintances when they get involved with a guy. Do not be that person and maintain the social aspects of your life. This will also benefit your relationship as you guy would want to have the same level of attention from you as your friends have. And for this attention, he will work hard.
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Hot and Cold
In order to give him the feeling of much-needed thrill of the chase, play him hot and cold. Show affection and then stop showing affection for a few days, give him attention for a while but then act aloof. Similarly, when he does give you his attention and affection, return the same level of affection but as soon as he stops, you need to stop too.
Even when you are in a committed relationship, you need to maintain some level of mystery and sense of independence. You cannot become clingy and needy at any stage of your relationship. Be his partner and not someone who follows him everywhere and in every aspect of life.
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