There is a substantial difference between dating a nice guy and a good man. And you always want to make sure that you fall in love with a good man. Because even though you might think you’re having a great time with the nice guy, it’s the good man you can really build a long-term relationship with. This is a message that goes out to every brokenhearted girl out there; and a woman who has had the unfortunate chance of being mistreated, abused, and manipulated by a man.
This is an ode to you; the woman who has tried her hand at love and fell hard; without having anyone there to catch her. This is for you who have been bent and broken by the prospect of falling in love. This is for you who have been betrayed by your own feelings. This is for you who are still struggling to cling to the hope of eventually finding love for yourself. Try to fall in love with the good man; because the nice guy is only going to usher in more disappointing into your life.
Okay, I know it can be confusing. And that’s okay. That’s what this article is for. Its sole purpose is to try to clear things up for you. This is the article that is going to try to point you into the right direction so that you don’t end up getting betrayed by your own feelings again. Yes, it may seem like the nice guy and the good man are essentially the same person – but they’re not. There is a very real and substantial difference between these two individuals. Sure, they can be packaged the same way; but at the end of the day, you’re only going to be able to build a life in love with just one of them; and it’s not going to be with the nice guy.
Wait up. Let’s hold on for a minute. Why would you even be listening to someone like me, right? What do I have to offer? What kind of expertise do I have that you should actually be taking what I say seriously? Well, I have none other than the fact that I’ve been where you are right now. What you’re living right now is my past. Your present is my history. I have seen where you are right now and I know where you are going. And I want to make sure that you don’t make any more mistakes than I had to make before I finally figured things out. I want to make sure that you are protected from bringing in any more pain into your life. And that’s why I’m writing this for you. You don’t ALWAYS have to go through pain to gain a substantial life lesson. I’ve done the suffering so that you don’t have to. And I can only hope that you keep an open mind when you read what I’m about to write here.
I once let myself be seduced by the charm and the wits of the nice guy. I once allowed myself to fall victim to the disarming advances of the nice guy who knew exactly what he was doing with me. And I was wrong to do so. I know now that it was a mistake. But at the time, nothing felt more right. Everything seemed to be falling into place for me; and little did I know that I was setting myself up for getting hurt.
Sure, a nice guy is someone who is going to be charming, enthusiastic, exciting, and downright irresistible. He’s the type of guy who is going to be saying all of the right things. He will be pushing all of the right buttons. He’s going to lie to you straight to your face just to get you to feel comfortable around him. He’s going to say everything you want to hear. He’s going to deceive you and mislead you by being fake. He’s conniving and everything that he does with you is going to have some kind of ulterior motive. He is just plainly insincere and he can’t be trusted even though he’s packaged nicely.
A good man is someone who might not necessarily be saying all of the right things all of the time, but his heart is always going to be in the right place. He might not tell you the things you want to hear, but he’ll tell you the things you need to hear. He might not really be the easiest guy to be with; but he’s definitely going to try his hardest to keep you happy. He’s the kind of guy you can REALLY be safe and secure with – because with him, what you see is what you get. A good man is someone who you know is being genuine towards you; and that’s how you know that the love is genuine as well.
