In a heartfelt plea for help, a very sad husband turned to Reddit to talk about a tough situation with his very sick wife. They found out she only had nine months left to live, and it really shook them. The husband was feeling lost, trying to deal with the news of losing his wife, when she surprised him by asking to be intimate with her ex-partner one last time.
Sharing his feelings of loneliness, the husband reached out online, hoping to find comfort and advice. His honest words struck a chord with many, shedding light on the difficult emotions that come with love, loss, and facing the reality of death.
“My wife has a terminal disease. She is projected to live at most 9 months. I am of course destroyed. We’ve been together for a decade. I don’t remember life without her and I don’t know what I’m going to do when she’s gone. I have been doing my best to make the last days of her life good and grant whatever wish I can,” the man wrote on Reddit.
“The doctors said that she was likely to need a wheelchair in 4 or 5 months, then by month 8 she’ll be bedridden for the last few weeks. That’s if she doesn’t decline faster.”
Just when he thought things couldn’t get any harder, the man was blindsided by a startling request from his wife as her time grew shorter. Sitting him down, his wife shared her dying wish – to be intimate with someone she had been with before.
“I of course was shocked and when I asked why the fuck she wants that. So basically she thinks that her most physically compatible satisfying lover was him. She gave a whole monologue about how sex sometimes is just physical and how emotionally fulfilling sex is with me but it was bullshit to get to that point,” he added.
“So now I’m left with this, deny my dying wife a wish for my own ego, or let her go fuck another man who she feels was better,” the man continued. “Honestly I’m so pissed of and betrayed that she asked this of me. I feel like I’m put in a position where I have to say yes because she’s dying.”
The man expressed his frustration, feeling torn between conflicting emotions. On the one hand, he grapples with the desire to fulfill his wife’s dying wish, while on the other, he struggles with feelings of betrayal and anger.
“I know what I want to say, but I don’t know if that’s right. I’m so hurt that sex with an ex was apparently so good that she needs to do it once before she dies. I just hate everything about this,” he added.
Many people have commented on the Reddit post, sharing their thoughts and opinions.
“Well if she wants to do it, he should leave her and get a divorce of separate from her. Let her have sex with her ex and when she comes back because she needs help in her last few months – tell her to go ask her ex to help her. You don’t deserve this dude, I would be crushed If my partner asked me this. But yeah it’s a terrible memory to be left with but I would probably not even be able to stay with that person if they had told me that was what they wanted to do,” one wrote.
“I would say NTA, just because someone is terminally I’ll does not mean that they can dump this onto their partner even though they internally know that is is wrong. When they committed to their partner, I would assume that they never intended to have any more sexual encounters with their ex for the rest of their life. This does not change because the end of their life is sooner than they anticipated. Idk it sucks but I would hate for that to be something I would have to remember my partner asked for before they die. It would never leave my mind even after death,” wrote another.
Meanwhile, a third commented, “NTA what person would say that even when they’re dying, cause now if that did happen you would have that terrible memory for the rest of your life. Plus it almost sounds like an excuse to cheat.”
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Source: Reddit
