If only you could tell on the first date that you’re just destined to spend the rest of your life with a particular person. Then you would be saving yourself a lot of time, effort, and potential heartache on failed relationships. But alas, none of us can accurately predict the future. And that’s why falling in love is always going to be a risk.
It’s always going to be a chance that you have to take. You never know for certain that things are going to pan out the way that you want them to with someone. You are always going to have to open yourself up to the risk of getting hurt; of getting your heart broken. You run the risk of investing yourself in a relationship and not having that emotional investment pay off. That’s just part of it.
But what if there was a way for you to gauge very early on that the person you’re dating just isn’t the one for you? You would want to know how to, right? You would want to know your chances with a person. You would want to know if what you’re starting with this particular individual has some serious potential to be something special or not. And at the end of the day, you just want to make sure that you are placing your bets in the right relationships. So, how exactly do you do that?
Well, there is no ACCURATE way to predict the outcome of a pairing. However, experts have revealed that there are 8 red flags that you should be looking for when you’re just starting to date someone. If you find that the person you’re dating exhibits a lot of these red flags, then you should probably check out of that relationship as fast as you can. These red flags are indications of bad news, and you don’t want any of that negativity seeping into your life at all.
1. They have very poor manners.
A person with poor manners is definitely not a person who is worth being with. At the end of the day, you have to realize that it takes two mature and respectable individuals to make a relationship work. And when you’re with someone who exhibits poor manners and etiquette, then that person probably hasn’t matured enough to be ready for relationships.
2. They don’t show a willingness to talk about relationship issues with you.
You always need a communicative partner; someone who isn’t afraid of having difficult conversations and discussions with you. You need to be with someone who is intelligent and articulate enough to express how they feel towards you. Otherwise, you won’t ever get to solve the issues and problems that might potentially plague your relationships.
3. They feel a deluded sense of entitlement.
Just because you are in a relationship together doesn’t mean that your partner should be entitled to getting you whenever and however they want. You need a partner who understands the value of hard work; someone who knows that they always have to earn the things that they are given. They have to know that they constantly have to be putting in the effort for your love; and that you’re not just going to serve it up on a silver platter.
4. Your instincts are telling you that something is off.
You should always learn to pay attention to your guy. When your instincts are telling you that something just isn’t right about a person, you need to be able to listen to them. You need to acknowledge the strength of your intuition; the ability of your soul to know when things just aren’t a right fit.
5. They are selfish and they make the relationship all about them.
You can’t be with a selfish individual. Part of being in a relationship is showing the willingness to give up one’s sense of self. And if you are with someone who is just far too selfish, your needs and expectations are just never going to be met. You are constantly going to find yourself feeling left out, disappointed, and unfulfilled in the relationship that you’re in.
6. They talk way too much about their exes.
Yes, there should always be room for discussion about exes and romantic histories in relationships. However, there is always a proper time and place for them. And if your partner is constantly bringing things up concerning exes, then you have to consider the possibility that they haven’t moved on from their past relationships just yet.
7. They never give validation to your thoughts and feelings.
This is a partner who is self-absorbed. You can’t make relationships last if you’re with people who don’t acknowledge who you are and how you feel. You can’t be so tolerant of someone who is just going to dismiss whatever you might want to say or talk about.