You can come up with a million reasons and excuses to justify his lack of enthusiasm to actually pursue you as a potential love interest – but at the end of the day, even valid reasons and excuses won’t matter to the guy who genuinely wants to be with you. You have to understand that if a man really wants to be with you, then nothing is going to stop him from doing so. The only person who would be able to hold him back from pursuing you would be you. He wouldn’t be letting any other reason or condition dictate how things are going to turn out between the two of you. Know that he isn’t shy about being with you. You’re not scaring him away. It’s just that he doesn’t like you enough to actually make an effort with you; to actually keep things interesting between you.
Distance won’t really be an issue for a man who is in love. You can be on the other side of the world, and even that wouldn’t be able to stop him from manifesting his love for you. You could be living right next door to him, and if he doesn’t love you, he isn’t even going to budge a finger for you. That’s how love works. It knows no limits. It acknowledges no hindrances. It doesn’t crumble in the face of any hurdle. It doesn’t pull back in the face of adversity. Love is always going to find a way to power through – only if it’s the real kind of love.
Remember that traditionally, a man is going to be the one who wants to initiate a relationship. A man is usually the one who will want to establish control of the situation by actually taking the initiative. That’s what most men believe to be an inherent aspect of their masculinity; being able to take on the challenge of winning a girl’s heart. A man is always going to be excited at the thrill of the chase. A man is always going to love the whole journey and pursuit. When a real man sees someone he truly wants to be with, he’s going to do whatever it takes to be with that person. And so if you find that a guy that you like just isn’t putting in the effort with you, then it’s probably because he just doesn’t like you enough to do so.
A man can have a million reasons to not go after you. He can tell you anything you might want to hear to make you feel better about him giving up on you. He might even be lying to you by telling you that it’s just beyond his control and that the circumstances of the situation are what are preventing him from really going after you. And he’s only doing this because he doesn’t want you to get hurt; he’s trying to shield you from the harsh realities of the truth; and the truth is that he just doesn’t like you enough to actually make an effort. He’s not so interested in you to the point that he’s willing to face the challenges that come with your relationship. He might tell you that he’s just swamped with work and the he has so many other things going on in his life. He might be telling you that he’s just not emotionally ready to be in a relationship with anyone; but deep down inside, you know the truth. It’s not that he’s not ready to be in a relationship; it’s just that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship – with you in particular. And that’s the realness of the situation. That’s the reality of things.
Yes, he can be very charming and alluring. He can be very endearing and attractive. He can be doing all of the right thing to make your heart melt. He is a rue gentleman in the classic sense of the word. And yet, he doesn’t really stay consistent. He sends you a lot of mixed messages. There are times where he actually treats you like you’re the only woman in the world. And then there are stretches wherein he acts like he doesn’t even know you. This kind of inconsistency is very telling of how he truly feels about you. And you really need to take note of it. If a man is truly into you, he wouldn’t be inconsistent. He wouldn’t just be showing up when it’s convenient to do so. If a man is truly into you, he would be there EVERY SINGLE TIME. He wouldn’t let anything stop him from being consistent with you. He would be stable and strong. He would really be a guy you can sink your teeth into and trust. He can really be a guy you can rely on. IF a man is truly into you, you would know it; because he would never make it seem otherwise.
