You’re probably really fed up right now about the fact that you just can’t understand or know if a guy is really into you or not. You so desperately want to be able to get inside his brain and just peer into his mind. You want to be able to open up his heart and see what’s inside. However, you just can’t. You don’t know if he’s serious about being with you or if your mind is just seeing what it wants to see. You don’t know if there’s some real potential there or if your heart is just playing tricks on itself.
It’s so easy to just think that a man is falling in love with you for real especially when you’re super into him. This is because your biases are going to give you a false sense of blind affirmation. You are only going to choose to see the things that you want to see, and you become completely oblivious to the things that you need to be looking out for. And usually, that can be a recipe for disaster. You always want to be staying on top of everything that goes on in your relationship. You always want to be making sure that you don’t blind yourself to the red flags or the signs that you need to be seeing.
If you allow yourself to be deceived and lied to, then, in the end, it’s only you who is going to be suffering. And it’s always a different kind of suffering when it’s heartbreak. It’s always going to be a little bit rougher than the usual kind of pain. And it’s always going to be hard to recover from.
That’s why if you notice that he sends you a lot of the signals listed on here, then something fishy is going on. He might not be as genuine and as sincere as he seems after all. And you better make sure to protect yourself.
1. He is inconsistent with the way that he texts you.
He might be acting all sweet and nice to you one day with his messages. And then he won’t text you for an entire week. It really confuses you and his inconsistency is just proof that he really isn’t serious about being with you.
2. He never wants to hang out when it’s just the two of you.
He’s always looking to hang out with you in a group setting. The fact of the matter is that being alone and intimate with you is very uncomfortable to him. And that should give you an idea of how he feels about you.
3. He lets you pay for the bill all of the time.
He’s treating you like a cash cow. He’s wanting to extract as many benefits from you as possible – including whatever financial benefits he can get. He turns to you to pay for everything that he might want. But he never shows a willingness to do the same for you.
4. He flirts with other girls in front of you.
He flirts with you and it makes you feel really happy on the inside. But you also notice that he flirts with other girls as well. And it’s all just really confusing to you. You don’t understand how he can do such a thing. But it’s all because he doesn’t really care about the fact that it hurts you.
5. He cancels on plans with you a lot.
When you make plans together, you always look forward to it and you always try your best to actually show up. But he doesn’t seem willing to express the same kind of enthusiasm. He’s just the kind of guy who nonchalantly cancels on you as if it isn’t a big deal.
6. He expects you to always adjust to his schedule.
When it comes to spending time together, you are the one who always has to be adjusting to his schedule. He never shows a willingness to compromise the time that he spends on other things. He’s always making you run around in circles just to be able to meet him.
7. He never allows you to sleep over.
He knows that letting you stay over to spend the night at his place is going to carry certain connotations and messages. And he doesn’t want any of that. He doesn’t want you to get any wrong ideas. He doesn’t want you to think that he’s taking you seriously enough to actually let you spend the night.
8. He doesn’t introduce you to his friends and family.
He doesn’t really introduce you to all of the important people in his life. And the reason for that is because he doesn’t see you sticking around long enough to actually matter. And that’s why he doesn’t even really bother to introduce you to the people who are closest to him anymore.