Have you ever been frustrated by having to deal with a guy who claims that he loves you and yet he also says that he can’t commit to you? It happens way too often. And it might even be happening to you right now. And it’s weird because you genuinely believe that he is truly in love with you; and you know that you both have the emotional tools that it takes to make a serious relationship out of what you have. You know that you have the kind of chemistry and love that can pull you both through. And yet, there’s something about him that is just holding the both of you back.
He’s afraid of taking that next step with you. He’s afraid of solidifying things; of making it official. He’s afraid of sealing the deal. Of course, it’s always nice to take things slow in a relationship. You never want to rush the process. You don’t want to be breezing through the various stages of your relationship without taking the time to really appreciate everything. But it’s another thing entirely when you know that you’ve been stuck at a certain stage for just far too long.
You want to take it to the next level but your partner is unwilling to indulge you. You really want your relationship to move forward but your partner seems to be paralyzed by fear of commitment. You’ve already invested so much into the relationship and you want to make sure that you won’t be wasting any more time on something that is eventually going to end anyway. Your time is valuable. It’s not something that you want to be throwing away on a deadbeat romance that doesn’t have a future. You shouldn’t have to be wasting your time on a man who just doesn’t have the courage to commit to you.
Of course, he might have his reasons. And they may be perfectly legitimate reasons at that. But still, you can’t wait for him if you know that there’s just no hope. You can’t allow yourself to put your life on pause for a man who just doesn’t know what he wants. One of the greatest frustrations from a lot of women these days is that dating can be so complicated. There are so many boys who go into the dating world today and yet they don’t even know if they’re going to be taking their relationships seriously. And it really frustrates the hell out of a lot of women who are just looking for the right man they can really settle down and build a family with.
Granted, not everyone is in a rush to settle down. There are many factors that go into really establishing a solid relationship with someone – and not all of it is emotional. Sometimes, a lot of youngsters will find themselves wanting to focus on their careers or social lives more. They know that getting into a serious relationship will result in them having to sacrifice so many things so early on in their lives. And a lot of young people these days aren’t willing to do so. And that’s a perfectly understandable reason for not really wanting to commit to someone just yet. It’s part of modern culture and we need to learn to accept it.
But what are you supposed to do if you find yourself in a relationship with a guy and all you want to do is take things to the next level? What happens if he doesn’t feel the same way? Where does that leave you? What is left for you to do? Well, read on to find out:
1. Don’t blame yourself.
It’s not your fault that he finds himself unable to commit. He’s dealing with some very sensitive and personal issues surrounding commitment; and these issues have nothing to do with you. You’re just a victim of the circumstance.
2. Be honest with yourself about how you really feel.
Be honest. Do you really love him to the point wherein you are really willing to wait for him? If so, how long are you willing to wait? What are you willing to give up for him?
3. Be honest with him about where you stand.
Communicate your truth to him. Let him know how you feel and what you need from him. Be really honest with him so that he knows where you stand on the matter.
4. Have the strength to walk away if he won’t budge.
And if even after you’ve poured your heart out to him, and he still refuses to budge, then you need to find the strength to walk away. You need to let him go. For your own sake, you need to be able to move on with your own life. Find a man who is going to want to commit to you; someone who is going to take your needs seriously.